HELLO???

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Registered: 05-29-2003
HELLO???
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Sat, 11-05-2005 - 4:23pm

Hi there,

I posted yesturday, and I got no responses. Am I a total loser? My anxiety is through the roof, and I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.

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Registered: 09-16-2005
In reply to: jlvst
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 5:17pm

jlvst........Sorry you've gotten no response to your post but I'll let you in on a fact I have found out... the weekends seem to be the slowest time for the board. So hang in there and I'm sure someone will be along to give the support you're in need of. Number one let me you say you are not a loser. I personally have no real words of wisdom to offer, my daughter is grown with kids of her own and lives in a totally differant state then I do. I know though it can be frustrating when people don't respond as quickly as we feel they should. You're probably right your friend is probably busy with her family and will call you when she gets a few minutes to herself. I've had friends that have been paranoid but since I've not suffered from it myself I really don't understand it. Have you worked with any coping skills like maybe deep breathing, visualization, or maybe just giving yourself positive feedback? Hopefully someone will be along soon that can offer you some better advice.

Keitha

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: jlvst
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 5:39pm
I am sorry about your anxiety, Jolie. I have many worries that have no basis in fact. It has taken much time, motivation & practice to deal with my negative thoughts. The suggestions that Keitha gave you were right on! I use these very same techniques with success. You need to keep yourself busy. Now, you're obssessing about being a loser in the eyes of people in cyberspace. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to diminish the impact of our community, but you need to replace this type of thinking with more realistic thoughts. You need to find some *real life* support. The thought for today that I posted may be of help to you. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhpanic&msg=17944.1&ctx=0
 

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: jlvst
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 6:40pm

Thank you for the kind words. I really appreciate it. I have been trying yoga lately, and sometimes it helps, and other times I just get frustrated. I was doing it yesturday and I couldn't figure out the moves, and, well...the rest is history. Thanks again for writing back. I know, I can be a bit impatient.

Love, JD

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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: jlvst
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 6:45pm

Hi there,

Thank you for your response. I only felt like a loser because I felt like I was the only post that wasn't responded to, and I did not recieve any emails all day. It's kindof like when the phone doesn't ring all day.

I find this community a comfort, and sometimes I feel like I wear out my welcome. That is why I was worried. I always like what you have to say, though, and you always make sense to me. This time, although, I guess as much as I understood your response and agree with a lot of it, it just seemed to hit me hard.

Thanks again. JD

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Registered: 05-18-2005
In reply to: jlvst
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 8:37pm
Hello there, my name is JanW....and I have been reading these boards for about 6 months, have chatted a few times and know that you are not a loser. It's that old anxiety issue, that has us obsessing over the littlest things. I can make a mountain out of a ant hill very fast. I haven't been on in a while, have been trying to get out of my comfort zone and starting walking again and seeing friends. I too, sometimes, feel so alone and I have a dh, dd, grandchildren, ds and lots of friends but somedays it feels as if no one wants me or cares. I hope you are feeling better.....we all have those bad days with negative thoughts. Just keep posting and I so agree it helps so much to know we are not alone. Sorry this is long....try to keep a positive attitude. Keep smiling. JanW
Jan