Told friend about anxiety

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Told friend about anxiety
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Sun, 11-06-2005 - 7:34pm

Well, I have a very good friend that I have not really discussed my anxiety issues with. I have gone to a couple of her functions, but find it diffucult because she knows so many people. Well, her fiance had a birthday party on Saturday. I was not looking forward to going because you combine her friends and his and the rest is history. I knew I would be overwhelmed and was getting anxiety just thinking about it. Now, if it was her birthday I would have made myself go no mattter what.

So I wrote her an email Friday night explaining my anxiety issues. She responded Saturday morning. I was so scared to read it. She wrote that her sister has the same problem and she knows how I feel. She said she still loved me and looked forward to us doing something alone together. That made me feel so good!

Yavonne


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Sun, 11-06-2005 - 7:59pm

Yavonne,


That's great that it worked out for you.


When I first got anxiety I stopped working, not working was actually due to health issues but I never went back because I knew that I needed to get my anxiety under control and dh had been wanting me to quit anyway.


Well, I called and told my boss that I was going to have to take a leave of absence due to health issues. I didn't specify.


I ended up telling her the truth and she said that her bf had panic BAD and she knew what I was going through. It was nice to hear.


It seems as though more and more people are being open with having anxiety and knowing someone with it.


It is great that the cliche seems to be disappearing.

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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 1:24am
I kept my anxiety/panic a secret for many years. I felt so relieved & free when I finally confided in a few folks. As time goes on, I am hoping that we will all find more acceptance & understanding when we are willing to discuss our disorders. Heather is so right! Anxiety disorders are on the rise. Glad to hear that you found understanding, Yavonne! (((hugs))) jan

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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 9:09pm
I let certain people know that I have anxiety issues, but don't usually go into details. She is a very outgoing person so I didn't know if she would completely understand. But I'm glad she did.

Yavonne


Wife to Devin 5/12/01


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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 9:12pm
Thanks. I think it is a shame that I didn't even know how much anxiety my mom had till this last year!

Yavonne


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Mommy to Aaliyah 7/29/03

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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 10:43pm

That is so great. It amazes me how many people have a story to relate regarding to anxiety, once we open up and talk about it. Anxiety does affect everyone and people are finally opening up & not being afraid to talk about it. Now you have someone you can talk to openly.

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:51pm

Hi,

I tell people close to me about my anxiety and they always tell me that I seem "normal"/healthy to them. Even my best friend..it was very hard to explain to her that a lot of what is going on in my head I never share with anyone. I think it was great that you were able to tell your friend about your anxiety. I know that its pretty hard to explain to someone who doesn't experience it.

GM

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 4:30pm

My family and all of my close friends know about my condition. It makes me feel better that they know and still accept me. One of my closest friends and I were hanging out a lot during the time I went off all my meds to get pregnant. She was so understanding and said that she saw such a change in me. I was glad that she knew so that I could be open about how I was feeling. Going off all meds is very hard and she understood even though she doesn't have any experience with it except me. I guess that's why she is one of my closest friends to this day.

I am so glad that some people are getting over that "just snap out of it attitude".

Hugs

Alison

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:34pm
that's great Yavonne! I think it helps so much to talk to your closest friends about anxiety, it takes so much pressure of your shoulders, you no longer have to pretend everything is alright all the time, and feel weird when you are anxious. I hope she proves to be a great source of comfort for you :)

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 10:03pm
I wanted to thank everyone for their kind words.
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