How to tell my boyfriend I'm in therapy?

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Registered: 01-13-2004
How to tell my boyfriend I'm in therapy?
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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 10:33am

Hi, I'm new here. I am 32 years old, and I see a psychologist for panic attacks, anxiety, and an overwhelming fear that whoever I am dating is going to leave me. I have been seeing my great boyfriend for two years now, and I started seeing my therapist 2 months ago because I just didn't want to screw this relationship up like I might have in the past. I have been screwed over in almost every major relationship I have ever had, and I am constantly paranoid that he is cheating or unhappy with me, and he is not.

Therapy is going well, but it has come to the point where everyone (my best friend, my therapist, and, reluctantly, me) thinks I should tell him that I am seeing someone and why. The thing is, he is your typical guy, and doesn't like to talk about feelings. But I feel like I am keeping this secret from him the last 2 months, and I need to tell him. I don't know how to start the topic. I am scared to death! How do I tell him? What if he thinks anyone who is in therapy is completely insane? How do I tell him that the main reason I am going is so that I don't mess things up with him? Help.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 12:25pm

Hi! Nice to see you in our caring community. There's many folks here that will be glad to help you with learning to live with an anxiety disorder. Meds & therapy are known to be the most successful. However, we all need to learn new ways of coping with our fears.


 

 


 



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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 7:41pm
Hugs for you!! In my opinion I would tell him
about your anxiety and then say I have been going
to a therapist for help with my anxiety!
Then let him ask you questions if he wants or if
he is quiet ask if he has any questions!! Tell him
about your problem with relationships and self esteem!!
Telling him is better than NOT!! He will be able to
understand you words and actions better-
I guess there is no EASY way just out with it!!! GBU, Judy