trigger again! UGG

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Registered: 05-29-2003
trigger again! UGG
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:54pm

Hi there,

I am so nervous right now. I just got off the phone after not talking to my friend for over a week. I am also so mad at myself because I felt like I was kissing her butt! After our conversation was almost over, I felt the need to tell her how much I missed her and that I know we haven't talked in a while, but I hope she knew I was thinking about her. It's almost as if I was looking for confirmation that she still liked me. I know I need to trust in our 20 year friendship, but my anxiety takes over. I do have a realistic view of things, but my heart and anxiety always go in the other direction. I hate feeling this way, and I wish I didn't have this horrible "fight or flight" feeling everytime something little happens. BIG WOOP, so I didn't talk to her! Right, I should know that she still loves me, and a week of not talking is not going to change that. She is the type of friend that does analize everything, and she does get mad easily, so I always think I did something wrong.

Thanks for listening, I really appreciate it. I just don't know how to calm myself down. The coffee I just had surely does not help!

Again, thank you for reading, It's so nice to have a place to vent and get advice. I am just scared she is going to be mad at me.

Love, JD

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Registered: 01-17-2001
In reply to: jlvst
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 10:02pm

Jolie,


Well I agree that the coffee probably didn't help.


Can you tell your friend your true feelings? That might help her understand you and give you the peace that you so desperately need.


Other then that I really don't have any advice for you but to try to take it easy and concentrate on good thoughts as best you can.

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