What am I going to do????

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What am I going to do????
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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 11:15am

I am so anxious and have several big stressors in my life right now that don't seem to be going away. We moved a couple of months ago into a new house with the assurance of our realtor that our other house would sell within a month or so. Dumb, dumb, dumb. We are stuck with both house and both mortgages. We have reduced the price on our old house 3 times already and still no buyers.

We are having major problems with our DDs kindergarten class teacher. She is just uncapable of supervising the whole class and without volunteers says she cannot get them through the curriculum she is supposed to. Well, DH and I work full-time and are unable to volunteer.

Then there's my job. I hate it and my boss seems to be trying to make me more miserable than necessary. There are a couple of other people that have complained to him about some things I have "done wrong" and come to find out they weren't done wrong, but would he take my word for it. NO. I just want to hold onto this job long enough to sell our house and re-finance our new house. Now it seems as though people are purposefully trying to make me look bad because I may've "stepped on some toes". I am almost out of xanax and have been on 600 mg of lithium for a couple of weeks now and still can't get the anxiety to calm down.

I am really at the end of my rope and can't figure out a way to get through. If I had any control over these things I might feel empowered and less stressed but it seems I have to sit back most of the time and hope things work out. That's just not how I am.

Sorry for the novel, it was either get it out with you guys our sit at my desk and cry my eyes out (I still might do that too).

Thanks for listening.

Alison

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 12:24pm

Alison, I know exactly how you feel. We bought our 2nd home before selling our 1st and it was a very stressful & expensive time for us. We dropped the price 3 times. Then I agreed to let my son & his gf & dd move in for a low rent, just to help with the mortgage and to keep the electricity on so it could be shown at night. Well, it sold in 3 weeks once they moved their stuff in! They were very upset, but I think it being furnished nicely helped it to sell, honestly. Have you considered renting? I did it on a month to month basis with no lease. Work problems are the worst! Just being at work makes me feel so trapped and then to have problems just makes it so much worse. I hope you can work things out. Can you call for a refill on your xanax? I'm trying to work up the courage to call my pdoc now.

Sheri Ann

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 1:24pm

We have been thinking of renting the house and I actually put it on a website for rent yesterday. As far as the xanax, I have one refill but will not be able to fill it until the 25th. I know it's bad but I was taking more than the prescribed amount some days, because I just couldn't get my anxiety under control. I am not completely out, but am trying to save what I have for the worst of times (which seems like always lately).

I hope I get as lucky as you and sell the house. I just keep feeling like it will never sell....

Alison

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 2:31pm

I think renting the house sounds like a great idea. Hopefully it'll work out and eliminate that stressor for you soon. As for work, well, I wish I could offer advice but those situations really bite and they seem to exist in most work environments. I think all you can do is just forge ahead and try to not let that crap impact you so much. Sometimes it helps to find a comforting thought and keep it in your head. Heck, write it down and keep it at your desk or where-ever your work station is so you have a visual reminder. And each morning, before you head into work, make an agreement with yourself that you'll make it through your day and everything will be alright.

I know...easier said than done. Wish I could offer more.

Jennifer

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 5:41pm

Just a thought - will the MD give you a prescription for a higher strength? Maybe you could tell her all the extra stress is causing you constant anxiety. Then you could take less for the not so tough times ?

Sheri Ann

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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 6:58pm

I was just going to suggest what SHeri Ann said, see if you can get a prescription for a higher dose.


Also, renting sounds like a great idea....


Does your realtor have any reasons why your house isn't selling? Any ideas?


Alison, please take care and use all the coaping techniques to help you...most importantly.. post when you need to!


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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 8:53pm

You got some good ideas, Alison. All I can think to add, is maybe you could do some paperwork during the evening @ home to assist the teacher. I used to do that as a *room mother* when my kids were in school. I would do cutouts for craft projects, assembling workbooks, just those minor things that take the teacher's time away from the kids. Have you considered asking the school to provide a teacher's aide? I know they'll give you the old song & dance that there's no money. However, if the teacher is saying she can't do it on her own & the kids are suffering for it, there's a responsibility on the school's part.


As you have said, you don't have control over many things. You will have to learn which battles are worth fighting & what things you MUST let go to get on with life. I am no way suggesting that ignoring things is the answer. Just change what you can, then move on.


I have no answers about the meds. They are only a tool. All of us have to find new ways to cope. It is very difficult when you're under so much stress. I am hopeful that as your troubles resolve, you will be less anxious. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:04am

My current prescription is for up to 4mg of xanax a day. I don't think they usually like to have people taking more than that.

Alison

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:06am

Unfortunately, the only reason the house isn't selling is because of the market which we have no control over. We thought we would be making money but as long as we get enough out of it to break even I'll be happy at this point.

Doing a bit better today.

Thanks.

Alison

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:43am

Alison, I'm glad you're feeling better. I'm having a bad day, but thankfully that doesn't happen often. I agree it's not a good time of year to sell a house, everyone is busy with the Holidays. Spring is best, but even after the new year, people will be out again, looking at homes. But you never know, it could sell tomorrow! (i'll keep my fingers crossed!) 4 mg is alot, I only take 1/2 of a .25, no wonder it isn't working for me today!

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:37pm

Hope you feel better soon!

Thanks for your thoughts.

Alison

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