Is this one of those type parties that a short appearance will only be necessary? If so, that's what I would do. Rush in all short of breath, make nice for a short time & rush out just as fast making apologies all the way. I did that once when SO's weren't invited to our work holiday party. Another time I went just for the cocktail hour, then excused myself by saying I had a family dinner that I couldn't renege on. Just some thoughts, Yavonne, on what a prevaricator I can be. LOL
I've been confronted with this many times over the years and this was always my litmus test; do I like the folks that I know I will meet at the party and if the answer was "yes" I went to the party. Let's face it, these are your worklife friends and if you want to spend time with them, socially, then you don't really need your dh. It's nice to have him go, but will he know many people? Jan suggested a short visit and that would work and who knows, you will probably stay longer than you expected. Just go and expect to have a good time and enjoy folks that you are around on a day-to-day basis.
Hi Yavonne, I think you should do what feels right for you. And I know you will. I had to giggle when I read Jan's post because I could SO MUCH RELATE!... "I generally liked my co-workers but 10 hours a day was enough with those people:) How can torture ever be called a party???"
Hee hee! My gosh! I so much agree with that! I think I just have a bad taste in my mouth about parties, because at the credit union I worked for we were 'expected to be there', (Even tho we weren't paid to be there-We were basically 'in the dog house' Monday morning, if we didn't show) and were told 'this is a gift to you, and you better show up'. I think I finally had enough of it after my dh and I had married and we went to a Xmas Party, and the drunk CEO totally yelled at everyone to 'Shut up' in a very elegant restaurant, so he and his drinking buddy secretary could talk! Good Grief! That was enough for me and my dh. We never went to a company party again, unless it was required. That is not a good work environment. Sadly, I stayed for 13 years! What a dummy I was! So sorry for going off on a rant there Yavonne! Anyhow! I think if you feel like going, and want to stop in, go for it. But if you don't want to go,then don't...I had to learn the hard way. I think it is a shame when our work pressures us to come to a party. That is no fun! And the people that want to go, always attend! I think you should just do what feels right for you, and please don't worry yourself over it. Let us know how you are doing,k? We Care! Love, shasta
Blessings,
Suz
Yvonne,
You never know, you might go and find out that you have FUN! I would just go into it with a positive attiude and hope that your dh can join you!
Thanks for your comments.
Hi Yavonne, I think you should do what feels right for you. And I know you will.
I had to giggle when I read Jan's post because I could SO MUCH RELATE!...
"I generally liked my co-workers but 10 hours a day was enough with those people:) How can torture ever be called a party???"
Hee hee! My gosh! I so much agree with that! I think I just have a bad taste in my mouth about parties, because at the credit union I worked for we were 'expected to be there', (Even tho we weren't paid to be there-We were basically 'in the dog house' Monday morning, if we didn't show) and were told 'this is a gift to you, and you better show up'. I think I finally had enough of it after my dh and I had married and we went to a Xmas Party, and the drunk CEO totally yelled at everyone to 'Shut up' in a very elegant restaurant, so he and his drinking buddy secretary could talk! Good Grief! That was enough for me and my dh. We never went to a company party again, unless it was required. That is not a good work environment. Sadly, I stayed for 13 years! What a dummy I was!
So sorry for going off on a rant there Yavonne!
Anyhow! I think if you feel like going, and want to stop in, go for it. But if you don't want to go,then don't...I had to learn the hard way.
I think it is a shame when our work pressures us to come to a party. That is no fun! And the people that want to go, always attend!
I think you should just do what feels right for you, and please don't worry yourself over it. Let us know how you are doing,k?
We Care!
Love, shasta