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| Tue, 11-22-2005 - 6:20pm |
Hi everyone. First of all I apologize if this is a woman's only type of deal. But I have been feeling "off" for the past week or so and needed someone to talk to. So before that a bit about myself. I am a 32 year old male, married, two children (10 & 4). I have been suffering from these symptoms for at least 13 years but they come and go.
But for the past week I have just incresingly felt myself slip into what feels like a dark space. I don't know if it is depression, anxiety, both, or whatever. All I know is that I don't feel like me and I don't like it.
This past Saturday I swore I was having heart palpitations so early Monday morning I went to the ER. They did an EKG, bloodwork, urine and everything checked back fine. I got home around 8:30 last night after about 15 hours at the hospital. When I got home things just didn't feel right. Kind of surreal, yet dark. I went to bed around 9:30 and tossed and turned until 5 AM when I woke up and went to the living room and began to cry.
I am scared because I don't know what is wrong with me and I feel guilty because I can't be the husband and father I want to be because of this. I can't talk to my wife about this because it just upsets her and dhe really doesn't understand. She just tells me to get on something. I was on Paxil a couple of times and it seemed to work well for me. I had also had around a 2 month period of counseling a few years back but none since.
I hate my job or rather the people, I hate my home, I hate being like this.
Thanks for listening

hello mrmet,
Just reporting these troubling symptoms is a start. Reinforce all those negative tests @ the hospital. Many of us have learned to cope with our fears & anxiety by positive thinking. It takes 11 positive thoughts to override one negative. It is easy to fall into the worry trap & even easier not to be able to think optimistically. It will help to get a proper diagnosis,
First let me say that we do have other men that drop by and you will be very welcomed into our group. We all are going through anxiety, panic or phobias and are a great support system to each other. It sounds like you are lacking a support system in your personal life, so please stop by often and I hope we can help with the support. Restarting the paxil sounds like a good idea, since it worked in the past. Why did you stop taking it? I know sometimes we feel better and stop our meds prematurely only to rebound. So to have stress at home and at work you're body is probably just on overload, or your mind, I should say. Please make an appt with your doc, don't keep suffering alone like this - and please post and let us know how you are doing.
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
Panic and anxiety come to both men and women!
I have had panic for many years and have found
that taking Paxil and going to therapy helps me!
I was undiagnosed for a very long time and the
panic would come and go- I had no idea what was
wrong with me and would go from doctor to doctor
to find help! Finally about 10 years ago I realized
what was wrong with me and got help!
Over time my symptoms increased and I was very sick.
I could not function like this and luckily found a
good therapist and doctor.
Please go to your doctor so he can help you! It will
not just go away! Especially since you have had episodes
in the past- feeling not yourself is very common, being
worried all the time is another symptom of anxiety.
I hope that you take this seriously since it is an disease
just as any other one is and needs to be treated!!
I am having good results from a hypnotherapist! It is a
excellent way to train your mind to relax.
Please get help for yourself! Let us know how you are doing! Judy