Anxiety creeping up

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Anxiety creeping up
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:27am
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Registered: 12-09-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 1:45am
i know exactly how you feel i dread when people come over, oh if i have to go over there. i will make up excuses to not go or for them not to come here. i will pray for you and hope your baby has a first good birthday. good luck tomorrow
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Registered: 12-05-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 7:43am

I also don't look forward to company, but you know what I tell myself,number 1 I have a child and that in it's self is a full time job and poeople do understand that,next I used to go around throwing things in the closet at the very last mintue until my 4 year old opened one of the closlets to get one of her toys I had thrown in there and that exposed that. Soooooo now even with an 6 year old I have college her and a husband and I say ok I am who I am and if my company can't except me for me then oh well,Plus I bet if you went to some of your companys house without anoucing yourself I bet you would not feel so bad!! I did 1 time and boy I was shocked she has a 13 year old and I stop by one day and her house was a war zone, I mean you could not see the floor or where it even begin truly.. so enjoy your day off and take your time and you have a child, bet their house isn't spotless!!! Be good to yourself enjoy this day... you deserve it... Try to have a Great Day! let me know how it goes..

Lynn

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 8:07am

Always good to hear from you, Yavonne! I am sorry the pending visit from your friend is causing so much distress. I think that Lynn has been able to keep things in perspective & make peace with company coming.


I know that we all put way too much pressure on ourselves. Chances are what you expect is quite different from what your friend does. It's entirely possible that she has no expectations @ all. That's the nature of anxiety. We see troubles where none exist. You're not obligated to have a perfect house or give a grand tour. Let's hope you'll be caught up in the fun of seeing your old friend after a year, that you will focus on her & not your worries. Be yourself. Be a good hostess & offer her something to drink. Make her feel @ home. I know you can do this. If she wants to bring a gift, then she must care about your dd. Put your dd out there center stage. Women can't resist kids:) Above all else, remember to breathe. Keep those positive thoughts. Good luck to you & happy birthday to Gabrielle! Don't be a stranger. We care about you. (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



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Registered: 01-17-2001
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 8:41am

Yavonne,


I am sorry that you are feeling so bad.


I haven't read all the replies yet but I wonder if your friend knows that you have anxiety/panic?


It may help if you share that with her.


Anyway, I know that my anxiety is usually worse leading up to something rather then the actual trip/visit/whatever it is. It is my feeling that YOU WILL BE OK, just try to relax and show off your precious Gabby.


I will be thinking of you!

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:48am
Heather, I was thinkig the same thing. If a friend knows about the panic, it really makes thigns easier. All of my good friends know that I suffer from the disorder and are very understanding about how fragile it can make me feel. But there are acquaintances that I enjoy spending time with but don't want to share sucah personal information with. Those are the people that I find it tough to handle sometimes.
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Registered: 01-17-2001
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 10:04am

I have told all of my friends and family. I am not shy about it... this is something that I cannot control and I am just amazed at the amount of people who say that they too are on an antidepressant for anxiety and/or depression. It really is common.. They also make for a great support system...!


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Registered: 04-18-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 10:54am

Yavonne, I noticed you haven't been around & was hoping it was because you are doing well, I'm happy you are. Don't stress about the house, enjoy the company! I put everything in a laundy basket & stick it in a closet if I have to. I'm lucky because our new house has a separate entrance into a formal living room & I have company use that door. It's separated from the rest of the house by french doors & has a bathroom off of it, hehehe, so there's NO reason for anyone to leave that room, lol. I'm awful, I know. But it does take alot of stress off since only that one room has to be kept spotless :)
Happy birthday to your little one. And don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure your friend likes YOU for YOU not for your housekeeping habits!

Sheri Ann

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 1:03pm

I know exactly how you feel. Through MANY years of therapy, I've come to realize that a lot of these issues for me stem from childhood. My mother was big on looking like the perfect family. Her motto was "what will the neighbors think???" whenever we did something she didn't like. She made her life as a housewife and was devoted to cleaning, cooking and maintaining the perfect home. In today's world it's pretty impossible an unrealistic considering that in most houses both parents work, kids are in daycare and we get home late in the evening.

Those standards were set for me years ago regardless and to this day I still get anxious especially when SHE's coming to my house. I make sure that everything is spotless because I'm so afraid she'll see my 'flaws'. Therapy has helped me realize this isn't a healthy way of thinking and that some things just "are." If my house isn't perfect, that's just one of those things :)

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 3:14pm

Hi Yavonne, nice to meet you, I'm the new kid on the block and helping out for a bit.

Judy

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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 10:15pm
Hi Judy.
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