WHAT IF Thinking
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| Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:24pm |
My worst anxiety is around "what if" thinking...what if I lose my job, what if I'm sick, what if my son were sick, what if we crash driving in that snow storm, what if I take this route instead of another - I get in to a car crash...YOU get the picture! Sometimes I think the future drives my current live because I can never really live in the moment. The whole "take it one day at a time" thing seems to completely escape me!
Right now there is some things going on at my job and I am completely worried about losing my job. My therapist says - what is the worst thing that can happen? I lose my job. I don't die. It is not the end of the world. At that moment talking to her, that all seems fine. But when I wake up with mega anxiety....it don't feel so fine :)!!! My morning anxiety has been horrible lately and I wake up with a bang. It carries throughout the day to various degrees. I do have XANAX and ATIVAN at hand when needed - but am worried about depending on them too much. I am trying to avoid daily meds as I am hoping to get pregnant next year.
Just wondering if anyone uses any methods to deal with these situations.

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Hi there,
I know you posted a while ago, but I just read it and I can completly relate. I, too, suffer from "what if" thinking. It's horrible. My issues are mostly focused on what if she is mad at me, or what if I dissapoint someone. I really can't figure out how to live one day at a time, either. My therapist says the same thing, and during my session I'm like "cool, I totally get that and I can do it!" then, as soon as I leave, something triggers me, like a tone in someone's voice, and boom, I'm back to the anxiety. I also wake up with it.
I guess what I am trying to get at is that you are not alone. I do find that deep breathing and yoga really help me. I try when I can, but yes, it is still very hard. Feel free to email me anytime if you think it will help to vent. Sometimes that helps me too. It's nice to know your feelings are being validated.
Lots of luck to you,
Jolie
ps. It sounds like we have a lot in common. I, too, was an event planner. I worked for non-profit. Now I stay at home with my two boys. 5 & 2.
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