My marriage IS behind my anxiety!!!!

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My marriage IS behind my anxiety!!!!
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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 12:04pm

I had another therapy session today.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 12:17pm

Hun, it is always good when we find the source of what is going on in our lifes. Just remember he might be feeling that he is helping you by making all the decisions. So when you two decide it is time to talk things through, you should probably tell him how you feel about not being part of the decision making. That this would actually ease your nerves to see where all the money is going to. :) I'll be hoping the best for you...

Celeste

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 12:30pm

Jennifer,


Have you tried talking to him about this? I'm assuming that you have.


You are married you are a SAHM, YOU WORK, you just don't get paid. You do have a say about money, you are in a marriage.


It is awful that you are in the middle of loving him so much and knowing that he is causing some of your anxiety. I am sorry that you have to go through that.


You said that you are scared to speak up and hopefully you can work on that in thearpy.


Maybe you can outline what you would like to talk to your dh about.... that way you can get it all out. Also, try not to accuse him of anything, his defenses will only go up (I'm sure you know that).


As far as you driving an unsafe car... that is unacceptable. He drives a new van that sits in a parking lot all day.., that is just not right and it sounds as though he is just being a typical selfish male.


Keep your faith and hang on to that. You dh does sound like a good man and hopefullly with some work you can resolve these issues. I always use wods such as ..

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 3:45pm

Wow, Jennifer, that's alot to realize.

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 4:06pm

Jennifer,
You go GF,Boy you have courage I know my DH is my main trigger and I just don't won't to be reminded to much, so I just keep praying and know things will work out. I see the light at the end of my tunnel, so it is in Gods hands for me and my DH is Good and Takes good care of us as far as finances and is not abusive,ah no, been there done that too.
He is not in control of my feelings I am, most of the time, LOL but as far as a trigger yes, My prayers and thoughts are right there with you, truly.Thank you for sharing that.

Lynn

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 4:50pm

Heather,


Thank you for posting that scripture.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 4:54pm

Yes, i found a great therapist and am so happy about that! :)


I actually do plan on being a bit of a nuisance with the car issue. lol

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:03pm

Congrats on the tire!

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:27pm
You know we are all great poeple and I know we all will work threw all that we need to. One we have each other and we all are surivers, HIP!!HIP!HARRAY!!! for all of US!!!
Ok!!! maybe I need to calm down alittle,I am just so excited...
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:30pm

Lynn, the party animal is in the group!

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:41pm

Jennifer Seriouly you deserve to be happy as we all do, and hey I have been trying to get my DH to enlist but??? well anywho things will work out..

Lynn