help, panic & anxiety ruining my life

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Registered: 12-26-2005
help, panic & anxiety ruining my life
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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 4:31pm

Help! I have a job interview tomorrow and am a nervous wreck! It's not because I'm worried I won't get the job, it's that I'm worried that I will get the job. Work has always been a difficult place for me, because I used to get panic attacks at work, on a daily basis. It's so hard for me to go back. My last job was easy and I had no problems with that. I recently relocated due to Hurricane Katrina, so I have added stress & depression. I just hate that I feel like I can't have a normal life, work and socialize. I'm married, but I feel like I can't let DH do everything himself while I stay home like a basket case.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 4:46pm

Wow, Monica, that is a HUGE step you are taking.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:13pm

Monica, that is great that you took the 1st step toward getting a job.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 12-26-2005
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 6:48pm

Thanks both of you. Just talking about it to someone who understands makes me feel a little better. My sister is an RN but worked as an LPN for years before she went back to school. She told me one day she never understood about panic, her attitude was "so you feel scared. So what's the big deal?" Then one day when she was in school to become an RN, they had a class about anxiety and watched a video on it, describing how people felt. Now she understands! Though I don't think anyone truly understands unless they've been there themselves.


I feel like I have to do this in order to help myself heal and feel normal. Before the hurricane, I was working p.t. at a fairly easy job and going to school.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 7:09pm

Having BTDT, I can relate to the shakiness & cold. When we're very anxious, the blood is drawn away from the unnecessary areas of our body & sent to the major organs to keep us on our toes. In other words, you don't really need your skin right now if you needed to flee from danger. But, you sure would need your heart & brain. This is a

 

 


 



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Registered: 01-04-2006
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 8:37pm

((((((Hugs Monica))))).. I feel your stress.. you have come through some really hard stuff but your going forward... That takes strength..
I can't offer you any better advice than the other posters have.. I am so far, luckey that my anxiety/panic stuff has not occured at work.. For some reason work and home are okay for me although I do have some feelings of it at home at times..Sending{{{{ positive vibes}}}} out to you...
(((((((Hugs)))))))

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 8:50pm
Hi cl-ijanis.. It's I *pauseable.. Picked this name so
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 12:25am

Thanks for your kind words. It was nice that you mentioned the change in user name. I am always the last person to figure this kind of thing out. I am always in *what happened here?* mode. LOL


The waiting in lines is a trigger for me, too. I have never become frozen. I have had to leave the store quickly. This seems to stem from a *trapped* feeling. You are doing great! Don't change a thing. You are so on the right track. Focus on the here & now. Look @ people's faces. Talk to your aquaintances. Do not allow the fear to overcome you. Breathe, think positively, imagine yourself like a Raggedy Ann doll. Very limp & totally relaxed. This has really helped me. Though I feel a little out of it in the big stores, I am able to stay long enough to get my shopping accomplished. It takes work, but it is doable. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan