Why does mourning take so much out of u?

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Why does mourning take so much out of u?
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 5:19pm

I'm so exhausted. I went to bed early after taking 3 xanax yesterday which is A LOT for me but I needed them yesterday. I'm still so wiped out today. I hope I'm up to therapy with the 2nd new dr and then med management with Jane. Oh it's going to be so much fun to tell her I went off of the lithium and then to boot I have to ask her for more xanax. She wrote me a rx for 30 tabs 1 - 2 per day but with this extra stress that isn't enough especially since I assume it'll be a while until I see her again.

For those of you who do med management seperate from therapy, How often do you see your pdoc?

Hugs
Danielle

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 5:37pm

I seem my pdoc every 3 months for med management.

Sheri Ann

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 6:31pm

Thanks Sheri Ann.

I had no idea how this works. I figure I'll end up seeing her again sometime in Feb in case the new dr decides to change my meds.

Now even though the tdoc can't write rx, He should know about meds right?

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 7:05pm
Danielle My doc orders enough for 3 months for me. As far as grieving it is
unreal! I expected my father to die but not my sister.
They passed away within 4 months of each other. I was very attached to my sister.
She was 12 years older than me and was developmentally delayed. I shared a bedroom with her for 18 years and my heart for 56 years!!
There is a "normal" process for grieving disbelief, anger, acceptance and moving on!
I still get angry but have realized now this will not help me or anyone!
Our minds are working overtime keeping us "sane" and dealing with the thousands
of emotions crashing on us! Physically exhausting it is! and emotionally as well---
My therapist helped me through this time by telling me to take it as it comes
and try to keep my REACTIONS at the lowest level possible!
By this I mean when the waves of grief come over you try to accept them
and feel them but if you can persuade yourself to move on to some other thoughts or activities then do so!!
He told me to try not to DWELL on the feelings!
I suppose he meant to make me realize that I had control over HOW I would react to these feelings--- in so doing I was able to have more control over myself!
It was UP TO ME how to react.
I felt like I could cry for years and years and could have if I so chose but I chose to remember her and my love for her and feel this instead of the grief.
Obviously this took some time to get to this point!!
I hope this helps you somehow and I hope I do not make you feel worse!!!
Hold her in your heart where her love can make you strong and happy!!!
I hope that you find comfort in my words. Judy
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 8:24pm
Thank you Judy, I do take comfort in your words, Thank you for sharing. Time does heal and right now that is all I need.

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 10:25pm

danielle,


I am SO SORRY that you are going through this. It is SO HARD and draining... ( I am going through a mourning period or sorts myself right now)


I honestly don't have any real

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:15pm

Thank you Heather, You take care of yourself too. Practice what you preach sweetie.

Hugs
Danielle

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 9:53am

The therapists know alot about meds & often talk to the prescribing doc.

Sheri Ann