Problem with counseling
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| Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:56am |
I am new to this board. I have GAD but it comes and goes with events in my life. I have been in counseling for years since I was 15 or so. I have tried medication but that is just not for me. I started with a new counselor a few weeks ago and I thought things were going good but yesterday some of the things he said were so wrong and gave me MORE anxiety.
My problem started when I ended a friendship because she was WAY too controling and it took me years to figure this out. I confronted her and ended the friendship and now this is causing me anxiety. I have HUGE problems with any kind of change. I also have really irrational fears.
I really do not want to start over with a new counselor again! But this counselor is all about my "Treatment Plan" when really I just need someone to talk to about the problems that I am having. Any suggestions.

Hello and welcome to our board.
Jennifer
"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi
Hey there
~*~*Welcome~*~*~*
Jennifer is so right. This is not the way you should be treated. I am the gal that she was talking about who is going through the same thing. I will include a link to my post. I want you know that you are not alone in this, be it the dx or the problem with your therapist. It took me some time to see the intimidation and to accept it for what it is. I still have the huge step of telling Jane that I am done with her. As I've told my friends, Our hour is up! I like you do not look forward in the least to starting over with a new therapist but for the better of my treatment that is what I must do. Each therapist has their own way of handling things and it isn't always right for us. I think about finding a therapist as I do shoes, You have to try them on and see which one fits best. I am trying out 2 right now. I will give them 2 - 3 sessions each so long as my ins. co doesn't give me any problems and then I will decide. Maybe neither one of them will be right for me in which case I will continue to look.
I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this. I'm glad you found us. This board and the ladies on it have been such saviors for me. Some days I don't know how I'd get through without them. Here you will find comfort & support. I hope that you will stay with us now.
Many Hugs
Danielle
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Hugs & Positive Thoughts Always,
Hello! You are very welcome here. We hope you'll join in our discussions & post often. Our members are generous with their time & will be glad to support you. You are NOT alone. Check out our chats on Tues. & Thurs. evening.
Hi,
What sort of problems are you having other than ending your friendship? Do you regret ending it or do you feel that the friendship had run its course and took too much from you to maintain. We all change as we get older and I have some friends from grade school still and I have some friends that I had to cut out because they were not the type of people that I respected and they were kind of annoying and controlling too. Since we have anxiety we tend to be people pleasers and we hate to tell people no or to have people not like us. Now, I really do not care that much but when I was younger it was a biggy. I thought the world had to love me. The therapist you are seeing probably wants you to do some sort of cognitive behavior thing for you to test and see how you feel after you complete different goals. The irrational fears you know have came after any type of change you experience that is different. No that this too shall pass and you have been here before and made it to the other side. Do not sell yourself sort in friendships and relationships and feel that you have to take things from people due to your anxieties. I truly believe that everyone has them and we are just more creative with how we scare of selves. We are sort of our own director creating our personnel scary movie.
Have a great day!!
Paula