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Bad news for me
| Fri, 03-10-2006 - 1:29pm |
Well my day is shot so far. For those who don't know I have been trying to transfer to a different location along with my mother-in-law, we both work for the same company. I found out today from my manager that my mother-in-law is a definitely approved for the transfer. However, there has been no decision made on me yet. We are transferring because we have a hardship within the family and need to relocate to help out. The plan was that we would go together and we would live together for the first year so the transition would be smoother for us all.
Now I am almost 100% sure that I will not get my transfer because that is how things always turn out for me. Nothing ever goes my way.
So now my wife is in the room crying and basically ignoring me. I feel like I am just numb by this. I wanted this SO bad and it even though there has been no decision supposedly I know what the outcome will be. I am just so tired of live kicking me around day after day. And although I know it isn't true it just seems that everybody gets to be happy but me. I am sick of my life and I just want to run away from everything and everyone. I don't know what I am going to do now.
Now I am almost 100% sure that I will not get my transfer because that is how things always turn out for me. Nothing ever goes my way.
So now my wife is in the room crying and basically ignoring me. I feel like I am just numb by this. I wanted this SO bad and it even though there has been no decision supposedly I know what the outcome will be. I am just so tired of live kicking me around day after day. And although I know it isn't true it just seems that everybody gets to be happy but me. I am sick of my life and I just want to run away from everything and everyone. I don't know what I am going to do now.

Don't jump to conclusions.
Sheri Ann
I am sorry that you have to wait so to find out the outcome of this. I will say a prayer for you.
Hugs,
First, try to take a deep breath hun :). OK, I am pretty sure that if you and your mother-in-law both requested a tranfer for the same hardship cause and at the same time, unless the company can come up with an airtight reason NOT to give you the transfer after they approved your MIL, then you could be looking at a discrimination lawsuit. The company is well aware of this, so chances are they are just doing "behind-the-scenes" human resource things, such as looking into your replacement etc... I would wait until the decision is given to you one way or another, but IF they do say no, make sure you get the reason why in writing and contact your company's legal department with all information. But, don't go in to work threatening a suit if ya don't get the transfer :).
That said, try to stay positive. Even if you don't get the transfer there maybe other options you could look into. Why don't you start researching the area where you would be living and see if there are any similar jobs or companies with openings. That is something productive you could be doing now and once your wife (which I'm sorry but I don't understand why she is so upset with you, you can't control the company's decisions) sees you are still taking an active role and still moving in a forward motion things I'm sure will get better for both of you. Sorry, this is so long :)
Andrea
Andrea
I am trying to be positive it's just so negative. This is going to be the 6th location in the state we need to move to. I do feel pretty confident because I requested that if I can't go to the new one that I would be willing to go to any of the other ones. It;s just stressing me out because I have no idea what the future holds. Are we going to pack and move or are we stuck in the dreadful state that we are in now?
As far as a new job goes...I am not going to find a job that is going to pay me $17 an hour with benefits for someone with no college education. If I could find something even close I would consider it but I know that those are few and far between.
Now I can't even go to sleep and I have to be up at 3AM and it is 9:30 now. I am just so wound up.
G'night all
Yes I have actually. I had my phone interview today and I think it went real good. It wasn't with the manager but it was the still the interview. The lady was very nice and told me that I can expect to hear something by the end of the week or the beginning of next week.
Really need good vibes from everyone on this!
Thanks for asking.
I just read this post (as I am new to the board) and I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.