Can someone please help?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Can someone please help?
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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 11:16pm
Thank you for your comments.


Edited 3/23/2006 4:37 pm ET by camandmacsmom
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 2:14am

CJ,

Let me make the disclaimer that I am not a mom yet myself, but many others are and I'm sure they will add their comments later.

First, kudos to you for being tuned in to your child and his feelings. He's very lucky to have such a caring parent. If you feel that his issues right now are truly occuring and you feel put off by the school counselor and the pediatrician, you have every right as a parent to continue looking for answers. You know your child best, after all.

As someone with anxiety issues, I can honestly look back at my childhood and say that those issues were present at that time in some shape or form. I used to be frightened that my father's plane would crash on a business trip and those worries would totally consume me. I also worried for months when I was 8 or so (in 1987, to set the scene) that I would get AIDS and die b/c I was too young to understand about the disease. I literally worried myself to bits over it and was scared I would die.

My mother was very patient with me and always listened to my fears. As someone with anxiety/depression herself, she understood that my fears and worries, however improper, were very real to me.

I did eventually outgrow this stage when I got old enough to understand the difference between a rational and an irrational fear. Years later my anxiety has resurfaced again to the point where I have begun treatment for it.

While none of us here can diagnose anything, it's obvious that your son's fears are truly interfering with his life. Have you considered consulting a child psychologist? This type of professional knows how to communicate with and understand children and could be very helpful.

I hope that things begin to look up for your family. Once again, your son is very lucky to have a mom who is there for him :)

~Meghan

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 4:53am