New.... correct board?

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Registered: 03-27-2006
New.... correct board?
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:50am
Hi All :) Happy thoughts and wishing everyone well! My DH suffers from panic attacks and I do the best I can to help, we have known each other for 2yrs and I have never experienced anything like this from such a seemingly strong, VERY confident man/person. I know I can never truly understand what he goes through but please bear with me and I mean no one any disrespect whatsoever but I am wondering if there is an anxiety group for spouses/sig. others? He does not know I am here and I feel kinda bad for doing so but I just want to know what others experience and strategies to help not only him but our family as a whole. He does not like it if I talk with fam/friends about his panicking and he does not particularly like that I get online and talk with other people. He has reason to since I was unfaithful with my last H so that is why I have limited my outside contact to mainly family and only a couple female friends via email(used to work with them before we were married). I quit my job to work with him in what is now our business and cut many ties to help him feel more secure in our R. We have tried a variety of methods/meds to help him with his attacks most of the time they work but I just hate the fights we get into. He puts up a wall and starts saying unproductive and very hurtful things. I love him very much and get pretty defensive when things are purposefully said to cause harm; I bite my tongue when it comes to things like that but then I get so hurt because he means so much to me that I take everything he says personallly. Argh...sorry I just wanted to ask, is there was a spousal group?
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 9:35am

Hello! It's nice to have you in our caring community. Firstly, we don't have a spousal support group. Sorry): Maybe someone else can point you in another direction. There is a Families & Mental Illness board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhfamschiz

 

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 6:14pm

I'm not sure we can offer you the support you need.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-27-2006
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:18pm
Thanks guys/gals for your input, I will also check out the other place that was suggested. Best to all!
:)