Anxiety questions??

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Registered: 05-16-2005
Anxiety questions??
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:49pm

I am still alive here.I have been wanting to post with these questions,but I have been sick.Then I had Audreys birthday yesterday,which left me exhausted.


 

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:38pm

You know, Jeanie, I had many stressors in my life back in the early '90's. My ex was abusive. We divorced. Financial troubles. My only ds suffered with ca & died. My job wasn't secure & my employer was making tons of changes. I began to withdraw because of the anxiety I felt. Then, I suffered a horrible depression. Just like you did, I felt hopeless, helpless, despairing of everything. Noone seemed to understand. The real truth was that noone had a clue that I was anxious, depressed & agoraphobic. The only time I left home(it was a challenge) was to see my *T*(I NEVER told him how sick I was)

 

 


 



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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 7:54pm

(((Jeanie)))

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 05-16-2005
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:11pm

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you.Alot going on here.


Jan,thank you so much for sharing.I had a lump in my throat as I read your responce.That is exactly how I feel*just existing*and it wont go away.Thank you so much for helping me out with the correct wording.Dave has always said I seem withdrawn.Its almost like I am asleep,and nothing fazes me.I actually think their are 2 different things.While I always feel withdrawn sometimes I feel that

 

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 7:21pm
Jeanie The feeling of being disconnected or unreal are
horrible!! I know exactly what you mean! It is as if someone
else is doing what you are doing and you cannot feel it!!
I have had panic since a very young child- I too was a child
in an abusive home---- it taught me that life is scary and
fearful- people are dangerous and to hide my feelings!!
With therapy I am now able to BE MYSELF!! Feel things and
enjoy them!! It has taken so much time for me to get where
I am. I am pleading that you find a good therapist that can
help you face yourself! And realize that none of what happened
to you was your fault!!! It takes a LOT of time and work but
trust me IT IS WORTH IT! If one therapist does not help try
another!! My life would be soooooo empty if I had not found help!
I could not do this on my own I needed the guidance and support
of a trained therapist!! I go to hypnotherapy now for the past
2 years and believe me it is THE BEST!!! He has change my life
forever!! I wish the same for YOU! TAKE CARE AND EMAIL ME
ANYTIME! You are worth it honey! HUGS! Judy
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 11:51pm
(((Jeanie))) I am so sorry for all the rough things you've been through. Judy said it best. * You are worth it honey! * Yes, you are! Just take it a day @ a time. Thank God you have Dave for support. We're here for you! (((hugs))) jan




 

 


 



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Registered: 03-19-2006
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 10:03pm
Jeanie I'm by no means an expert on anxiety, but I can tell you that, based on my own experience, one has to "come clean" about the unpleasent things that contribute to our pain. When you are ready it will be time to dig into the issues that you need to face. Many of us have mild to horrible disordered pasts and we've found that the path to being better to ourselves is to face those past issues and then move on. And I stress move on. True, it's painful, but clearing away that old, nasty debris is good for our recovery. And you can feel better and understand clearly your worth, your value and your specialness. That's when you will understand why you are lovable and why those around you have given you support. We all understand that here; each in our own way we strive to learn about ourselves and what it is we control so that we can change what we control. It does take time and yes, we do sometimes slip back, but we are wiser for the slip and then move ahead. The disconnected feelings are typical, but with each step in our recovery they lessen. My hope is that you will take some action steps to get a little more help than you have right now and learn that you can feel better. This board is a safe place to talk, but we are not the "end all" for recovery. We are a support system because we know exactly what you are going through. We hope that we can continue to be your cyber friends and that you'll share your recovery stories with us.
Blessings,
Suz