Me again

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Me again
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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 11:48am

I posted a few weeks ago and have been lurking and reading posts etc. I want to thank everyone who answered my original post. I have found the coping skills below very helpful and interresting.

At this time I am doing very well with just a little depression. Being out of control is my biggest cause of anxiety so decided to put my foot down with dh. If he doesn't want to be supportive thats fine but hes not going to interfere in my business either. I recieved my share of a nice check from an ins policy my mom had that didn't have to go into the estate. I decided what I was going to do with it and dh didn't say a word. I now have a beautiful new entertainment center, paint for my living room and drapes!! I spent every penny. I know it won't be as easy when I get the big check but I feel stronger having done this.

I really have little or no support system at all anymore so need to build one. My long time Pastor resigned a year ago, my Christian counselor retired, the 2 best friends I had died within the last year both died young. One with cancer, the other had an anurysim. That was pretty much my support system. I keep praying for a new friend that I can talk to like the 2 who died. I'm glad I've come to this board. you all seem to be so supportive of each other and I need that right now. I also hope to be of help to others. Grace

GRACIE

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In reply to: gracielace
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 2:19pm
Nice to see you again, Grace:) I hope that your prayers are answered & you find a supportive friend. I want to tell you that if you are comfortable with your decision on spending the money, then that's all that matters. We appreciate your faithfulness to the board & hope to see you more often. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan




 

 


 



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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: gracielace
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:29pm
Jan, I don't think I would be comfortable spending the large portion of my inheiritance when it comes. I want to put most of that into CD's so I can make some money on it and have a nest egg. I spent the smaller check because I had been asking dh for these things for a very long time. Although he agreed we needed them he has to control the timing as well as what we get. This was my money so I got it when I wanted and I made the choices. this hasn't happened for years!! It feels good to have a little control. Having a little nest egg will make me feel more secure also. Grace

GRACIE

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: gracielace
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 5:13pm

Grace, good for you!!

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 09-16-2005
In reply to: gracielace
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 6:58pm

Gracie Welcome and come join us anytime. Share in our discussions offer your support and believe me support will be offered to you. We all need a support system and that's why we're here.

Keitha

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: gracielace
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 7:04pm
WELCOME BACK GRACE!!!
Yes there is a wonderful group of people here!!
Supportive and caring---- so post anytime!
Your losses have been huge- I AM SORRY
It seems you are doing all you can to help yourself
with finding support and being assertive! YOU GO GIRL!!
I don't know the exact situation with your hubby BUT---
MEN in general have a hard time understanding anxiety and or
panic!! I have to tell mine exactly what to do after being
married for some 36 years!! OH MY!! I AM OLD!! hahaha
anyway just think of him as a young child needing your help--
hee hee!! Hope to meet you in chat! Judy