feeling really down today

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Registered: 03-26-2003
feeling really down today
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Tue, 04-11-2006 - 3:57pm

I got dealt a double whammy today, and here I still have another week and a half until my therapist gets back. First, I've been having problems with my mom for the past few weeks. We are usually really close, but there's been tension for awhile. When I got in to work today, I opened my e-mail to find a really snitty and hurtful e-mail from her. I haven't responded to it and don't plan to. THEN, later this morning she called me at work like nothing at all had happened to tell me something funny that one of their cats had done. Huh? You send your daughter an e-mail that basically calls her a loser because she isn't dating and then you call her less than 12 hours later all cheerful wanting to tell her a story? It's like two different people or something. She told me this funny cat story, did not mention the e-mail at all, and then had the nerve to say that I "sounded quiet today." Asked what was wrong. Is she playing mind games with me or what? Did an alien come and invade her computer and send me that message? How can she send a message like that and then question why I'm not all chatty with her afterwards?


If that weren't enough, I found out today that we're getting a new boss. Our boss has been promoted, so he won't be our direct supervisor anymore (he will be above this new lady they've hired). I'm a little nervous because I was on vacation the day she came to be interviewed, so I've never met her. And my friend/coworker says that she didn't like this lady because she seemed really unprofessional and inexperienced. Our office is out of control already. We need someone to whip things into shape, not add to the chaos. And the new boss starts on Monday! Just a week away. Our boss delayed telling us. I just wish I had been able to meet her before. Of course, as miserable as I already am in this job, this could be the thing that finally kicks my butt into gear into seriously looking for another position. All this time I've been afraid to seriously engage in a job hunt, but maybe now is the time to start moving.


I wanna go home. At least I can leave at 5 today.


Laura

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 04-11-2006 - 8:49pm

(((Laura))) Maybe the phone call was your moms way of apologizing??

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 04-11-2006 - 9:22pm

I could've written your post a thousand times, Laura. Years ago, my psychiatrist related that she had difficulties with her own mother. She advised me to move away as she had done. Whether this is true or not, though I have always thought it simply couldn't be possible, my psychiatrist said my mom had no clue what she was doing or any idea of the negative impact it was having on me. It's hard to believe anyone could be so thoughtless. KWIM?


I have learned that to feel bad about these incidents is ok. But, limit myself to allowing them to affect me for just a short time. Then, move on. It does no good to hang on to the negativity & allow it to rule my life & keep me down. Remind yourself of all the positives in your life. Why others like you. Why you like yourself. If you can come up with only bad things, then change what you can. Maybe change the job so you aren't worrying & being dragged down everyday. We care. We want you to feel better. You are halfway to your *T's* return. You will make it! (((hugs))) jan