I AM FLAMMING MAD !!!!!!!! Long

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Registered: 05-16-2005
I AM FLAMMING MAD !!!!!!!! Long
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 8:13pm
My son and his pregant g/f broke up about 1 week ago.She just decided she wanted to move out.Which is fine by me.She has a history of illegal drug use,and could care less if she goes to the OB or not.I made sure to take her to all her appointments.Some days she would avoid going,my guess would be shes afraid the doctor may find drugs in her blood work.She avoided her 1st set of blood test and openly admitted she was waiting on her blood to clear.I try and mind my business,until it comes to such careless acts like this.When she was moving I said to her,What, going to get the baby high.Maybe I was wrong for saying that,but shes smoking mariwanna,and we all know this.Well my son says he has just had it with her and trying to keep it all together,he dont care if she ever comes back.Everytime she leaves like this,she just attacks me,to my son....everytime!!!!!!!! I am so sick of her doing this.She acts like I am her best friend in the world,until they have a fight.I just recently got her a membership at the same gym...$200.00.I went and bought her all knew clothes,shes growing.My house is slowing being filled with baby things for her.I just wanted her to have the best.I treat her like my own daughter,and try to be her friend.She dont have anyone.Their isnt anything I wont do for her.Even all the trash talk she does about me to my son.I just keep forgiving her.I try to keep her straight,and get rid of all the bad.Drugs being the 1st.She called my son and ask if she could come get some of her clothes.While she was their,she called me horrible names,and told him....YEA I AM HIGH....AND SCREW YOUR MOM,ITS NOT HER BUSINESS IF I GET MY BABY HIGH.I just consider "the sorce"and let it go.Its out of my hands.Today she called him and said tell your mom,I here she wants my baby...she wont get my baby....and wont ever see it either and tell your B@#%H MOM I HAVE MY OWN RIDE TO THE DOCTOR AND THAT I WILL SEE HER AT THE GYM......ON HER DIME.Help me out here ladies,I am seeing double and I am vibrating irate.I called the gym and cancelled that membership.I cant face her at the gym.I feel good I got my $200.back...but i feel guilty about it at the same time.WHY WHY WHY?Why does she do this to me,I dont understand.I never said i wanted her baby.I treat her soooo good.I just wanted GOOD things for her.My son says mom I cant deal with her and is bringing all her things that she left behind...TO MY HOUSE.I want to call her or email her sooo bad.Dave says let it go,she wants to hurt me to get to my son and that if i call her....she feed on my hurt and hurt me more.What to do ladies?

 

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 8:53pm

(((Jeanie))) I'm not sure there is anything you can do but let it go.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:02pm

I am sorry, Jeanie. She sounds very young & very immature. Probably isn't old enough to care for a baby, as she certainly isn't thinking of the baby & the health issues it may face for life, because of her irresponsibility. I have no sound legal advice, but I would check to see if I had some options in maintaining the baby's safety through the proper channels.


I am glad you got a little satisfaction from cancelling the gym membership. It wasn't really a vengeful act. Chances are she wouldn't have followed through & got your money's worth out of it anyway. Besides, the money will be better spent on the new baby.


Why do kids say mean & spiteful things? Chances are good that she hasn't had a good upbringing & never learned how to cope with life. Perhaps there's abuse in her past. Maybe her family doesn't get along & she thinks that disrespect is the only way to deal with her fears & frustrations. For now, you can only keep yourself well. I know it's hard & won't come overnight, but put it to bed. Try to move forward. Chances are pretty good, that she'll be coming back when she needs something. Either to your ds or you. This may be the beginning of many break ups. I have known that to happen. But, try not to what if. Practice your breathing & get some rest. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan