SCARED

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Registered: 01-02-2000
SCARED
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:36pm

This is my first time here.. ok well posting at least.. I've been lurking here for a number of months...but i really can't take it anymore. I'm 26 and have anxiety/panic attacks on and off for most of my life. It's awful...and I can totally relate to other posts..it almost astounds me that other people go through this. I feel so alone when this occurs.. I am engaged to a wonderful man that is very supportive of my problems...but i feel so inadequate lately..

I dont have panic attacks often with him..b/c he makes me so secure and comfortable. I was almost unable to go on vacations before I met him...now I can go most places and be ok...

But I have a new problem..I have a strange fear - this will sounds sooo stupid.. i know.. i'm afraid of a tsunami...saying it just makes me cringe on how stupid it is... I live in Florida and love the water, scuba diving, boating...everything... well i had a panic attack about 3 weeks ago on the boat.. a bunch of us were going out diving and I had to get off the boat.. i couldn't do it.. the tsunami was going to kill me...so my fiancee had to turn to boat around and drop me back off at shore....now we are supposed to go out again this sat and i'm petrified...i've done this before.. i know i can do it...but i'm so scared....it just makes me cry...

Help me

KP

Kristiana
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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: kpowers3
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:58pm

Hello, KP! It's nice that you delurked, so we can see you;) You are very welcome here. Hopefully our caring & supportive community will be able to help you in someway.


I am sorry to hear about this fear that has developed. It must be very difficult. I must tell you that I have had pretty *far out* fears & spent years beating myself up over them. I am much better now that I like me & know that sometimes these fears intrude & I have little control over them. Please be kind to yourself. This is truly a chemical imbalance that manifests itself with emotional problems. Remind yourself often that this is a flaw in your chemistry, not your character. Learning to let go & allow the fear to pass over you or through you helps. Finding ways to relax & re-focus so that you can live with it, is what you most need to succeed. Take a look through our *coping tips & tricks* folder below. Have you considered counseling or meds? It doesn't mean you're crazy, just in need of help. It also doesn't mean you have to do both for the rest of your life. Many of the folks who post here, don't do them both forever. Right now I don't take regular meds for my anxiety/panic w/agoraphobia. But, I did need help in the past & under the right circumstances, I may in the future. I'm a work in progress. Learning new ways to cope everyday.


I am glad you have a SO to help you. Supportive people around us is very important. Drop into chat tonight. Post often with questions or concerns. Our members are generous in sharing their experiences. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan




 

 


 



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Registered: 05-16-2005
In reply to: kpowers3
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:54pm

Hey KP,you have found a great place.I am glad you came out of hiding.I was a long time lurker also.


After that massive tsunami,I also had fears about them.I would wake up from my sleep from nightmares of seeing one coming at us.I still worry about them.I have my whole life, had a fear to water though.I will never go out in a boat,swimming or take a cruise.I try and not let that fear consume me though.The water is just to big for me,with it being all around me while in a boat,well that just wont happen.I will not beat myself up over it though.I have had friends who wanted me to go out in the boat with them.Without hesitation,I say NO.I also have a great SO.I would be absolutely lost with out him.The fear of losing him,outweighs all my fears.He gets me threw so much anxiety,and comforts me the best.He just says a few words to me when I am anxious and most of the time that's all it takes.He has told me if a tsunami came,he would save me.May sound strange,but that comforts me enough to put that fear at rest.If I were in your shoes,I may just kick back else where and not go out on the boat this weekend,if it makes you nervous,that's me though.I wont do anything that others may consider fun if its going to scare the heck out of me.You definitely brought up a real fear of mine.I can barely even make it over a bridge and its not the bridge that scares me,its the water under it and what it can do.While I don't have advise for you,I can relate to you.


 

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: kpowers3
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:16pm

Hi KP & welcome to our group!

Sheri Ann