QOTW: What is your Emotional IQ?

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QOTW: What is your Emotional IQ?
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 8:38am

Try out this quiz. See how you're doing. Feel free to post your results. Good luck!


What is your Emotional Intelligence Quotient?
Is your intellectual intelligence the greatest predictor of what you?ll accomplish in life?


We have been conditioned to believe that IQ is the best measure of human potential. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn't necessarily the case -- that in actuality, your emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success.


What is emotional intelligence? In the early 1990s, Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D., and Dr. Peter Salovey, Ph.D., introduced the term "emotional intelligence" in the Journal of Personality Assessment. They used this term to describe a person's ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding. Then in 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.


The following test will reveal your emotional reactions to difficult situations and measure your EQ. Each item describes a hypothetical situation. Read through the entire range of responses for each situation and then pick the response that most closely matches the way you would respond.


Let's begin:

 

 


 



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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 12:40pm

Yikes, I had a feeling I would score low:


You scored 25% correct!

Your score indicates that you have a low EQ.


People that typically score in this range have a very hard time recognizing and understanding their feelings. They are not always able to express their feelings in an appropriate manner. They often have doubts and concerns about who they are and what they want out of life. They have little confidence in themselves and their abilities. In most circumstances, they have a difficult time showing love, empathy, and compassion for other people. In general, they are not comfortable with intimacy.

In addition, people with low EQ's have a difficult time communicating with other people. They struggle to get in tune with themselves and those around them. They often say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. They have a hard time showing their anger or dealing with anger directed at them. They either are not able to stand up for themselves when hurt or upset or they go ballistic when confronting others. They have a hard time admitting when they are wrong. When they do make mistakes they are often not able to apologize to those they hurt.

People with a low EQ generally have a low feeling of self-worth. They do not like challenges. They shun commitment. They are afraid of change. They have a hard time staying motivated and focused in the face of setbacks. They are not able to set achievable goals for themselves, and often give up trying in the process. They are pessimistic about themselves and their future.

However, one great thing about emotional intelligence is that it isn't fluid! A person with low EQ can increase the EQ at any point of life!

People with low EQ should start by learning how to identify their emotions and take responsibility for them. There are many resources to enable them to do this. They can read books about EQ and social skills, do EQ workbooks, see a counselor, join a support group, or take anger management course. They can enroll in communication skill courses. They can keep a feeling journal. They can ask their friends to help them recognize the things about themselves that need correcting. If they do these things there is no doubt that they can increase their emotional intelligence and live a healthy, happy life!



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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 3:33pm
Like I always say, I'm a work in progress. LOL I know I can use some work in the *worrying about what others are thinking* department.

 

 


 



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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 8:56pm

My score was 50%

I need to work on my self esteem ;-)

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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 1:53pm

You scored 15% correct!

I saw a low score coming, haha.

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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 11:20am
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