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| Mon, 05-22-2006 - 1:26pm |
I have learned that with our kids,our heartaches will never go away.I am also learning,how to be a stronger parent,so when the next one even thinks of hurting me so bad,I will have experience in the game.I am disrespected to know end by my sons gf.He called me last Tuesday and asked me if I would reschedule her US,because she was mad and did not go.Against everything I said,I told him yes,he then asked if I would take her to the appt.(she asked him to ask me these things)once again growling,I said yes.He called me Saturday,and said forget it mom,she don't want to be around you and has a different ride.Hiding my hurt,I told him I didn't want to do it anyway!!!I let it eat at me all night.I believe she just wanted to have me say YES,so she could deliberately hurt me,by taking it away.I also noticed he only calls me from work.He says he is just really busy.That may be true.Yesterday he called and asked us all over for a cookout.I dreaded it.I don't know how to act with her anymore.I cant look at her or even talk to her.Lots of tenchion,but I try.My oldest dd had a friend over,who would be going with us.My son called and said she can go but that his gf,hates her also.Once again I was floored and hurt.This girl is 12,and just an awesome kid.I felt like I was on egg shells.How do I tell this kid that she isn't liked,or that she shouldn't go or if she goes,not to talk.Forward on.....
This weekend we are going to cedar point.I told my dd her friends need to pay there own way and have there own money.My friend son is going with us,he is 15,I told him he needs his own money also.Well at this cookout my son asked me to pays for his and his gf tickets.I said yes again argggg!!!!and went on to say,that if I am paying his GF way,then it would only be fair if I paid for dd friend ticket also.Sounds like an invite to me, right?My son called me and said his gf was mad because I didn't invite her,and that shes


(((Jeanie))) Noone ever said parenting would be easy. None of our kids came with instructions & just because we gave birth to them, doesn't mean we know how to parent. There are no easy answers in these situations with your son & his gf. I face these issues all the time & I'm not sure I am doing all the right things. You need advice from a parenting expert or parents who know alot more than me. TBH, I think you need to get some ground rules set before this gf hurts you, your son, your grandbaby & herself. How about giving the parenting boards a try? I do care. Sending P&PT's your way. jan
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Jan,I never really thought about the parenting boards.I wouldnt need them,to tell me how to parent,but some advise on how to deal with inlaws would be great.I will keep that in mind.Funny,my mom just said the same thing,kids dont come with instructions.Thank you Jan
Jeanie
(((Jeanie))) I know how hard this must be for you.
Sheri Ann
Hello Sheriann,our b-day party went very well tonight for Morgan.She was very happy with all the money everyone gave her.13 is a tough age to buy for.I hope she dont mind me sharing but she ended up with almost $400.big ones.I told her,that was wonderful and that all the tickets are on her...LOL.I was very comfortable with everyone here.I had good conversations with Brians GF.I was just myself,and wasnt going to let anything bother me.I was floored when she got up and started cleaning up the mess.HMMM.
Cedar point,well I wont be riding any rides.I have a small heart condition which pemits me from riding any of those crazy rides.Honestly,I wouldnt ride them anyway.I live with an anxious gut already,and just dont like the anxious trill from them.Dave took me on a ferris wheel,with lots of coexing.OMGOSH,we were sitting way up high as ppl were loading below.I flipped out,dizzy,panic,started screaming for them to spin me back around to the bottom.I wanted off,like yesterday.The fit I threw,they rolled me back down and let me off.I was so enbarressed.I was okay ,until i looked down.I dont think Dave will ever forget that or talk me into another ride EVER.
Jeanie
Wow Jeannie, you should just like me!
Sheri Ann