Hurt feelings/ anxiety

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Hurt feelings/ anxiety
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 11:45am
Yesterday was my dh's birthday. I did everything possible to make it a good day for him. He recieved gifts and cards from my kids etc. I took him out for dinner, then we met one of my dd's who took him us for ice cream. He didn't get a card or a phone call from his two dd's. Its the same every year yet he still waits for something from them and takes it out on me!! He was terribly mean to me yesterday. At one point he said I didn't take good care of him. He had been in his den most of the day and I went out to clean out the car and wash it to surprise him. He came out and told me to leave it alone he would take it to the car wash. At that point I sat down and started crying. I managed to hold back the tears and just kept being nice to him. He was sullen and nasty through dinner and complained about everything. We got company later on and he wouldn't sit on the porch with us and visit. I know it hurts him when his girls ignore him but it doesn't help to take it out on me!! I was so tense all day that I woke up with chest pain in the middle of the night and today my stomach is hurting me again. I will have to go through this again on Fathers Day. I'm sooo dreading it. I have thought about saying something to his girls. I hate to butt in tho. If he finds out I said anything I'll be in big trouble. I'd really like to let them have it! they dont have a problem calling or coming around if they want something. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I hope theres a card in the mail today that one of them mailed late. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? I'm so tense and anxious today and I still feel like crying! This really hurts my feelings. Sharon

GRACIE

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 1:49pm

(((Sharon))) I am sorry that your feelings were hurt. Honestly, you are NOT responsible for that man's happiness. You are responsible for you! Please keep yourself safe.


 

 


 



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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 2:03pm

(((Sharon))) I am sorry you are going through what you are going through.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 11-25-2005
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 2:50pm
Sharon WOW I am so sorry!!! Your hubby should not take this
out on YOU! It is not your fault. Perhaps he wants to be alone on
his birthday??? THAT IS WHAT I WOULD SAY TO HIM! My husband for
some strange reason has a CHRISTMAS PHOBIA!!! HE IS MISERABLE THEN
and makes everyone else feel awful------ perhaps a childhood thing???
I have no idea but I can relate to how AWFUL YOU FEEL!! I get the same
way--It is hard enough to cope with my own anxiety issues and then
to have to deal with a "meanie" is just too much!!
I hope someone here will have a clever idea for you------ Sheriann's idea
to invite his dd's to a brunch is a good one! Come to chat and maybe
by then I will have a brainstorm----- hmmmmm maybe??!! HUGS!! Judy