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worry over nothing!
| Sun, 06-04-2006 - 9:05pm |
Hey there,
Hope you all had a nice weekend.
OK, here is my same ol, same ol. Just got off the phone with a friend of mine, and she sounded funny. I am so hypersensitive to people's tones, that I immediatly think I did something wrong. I can' t imagine what I did, but in my tiny brain, I think it must be something. Maybe I said something she didn't like, maybe she just doesn't like me. I called her over the weekend, and she didn't call me back.
(i know, she was probably busy, and didn't have time to call back. I do the same thing sometimes. sometimes I even think I am afraid of the phone.)
Oh boy, here comes the rumination! I am so tired.
Any positive words would help. You all are such a comfort.
xo, JD

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I know this is so much easier said than done, but you really need to try and not overthink things with your friends.
Hi JD,
I do this all the time too. Especially with my boyfriend. I was even doing it last night. What I try to tell myself is that, most likely, if someone seems to sound funny or have a strange tone, there might be something going on, but it's probably with them, and not something I did. For example, when my boyfriend is quiet, I assume he is mad at me, but it's usually because he is just tired or has a headache. Most of the time I assume it has something to do with me, but it usually doesn't. I think the same is probably true for you and your friend. Maybe she had a rough day or something, and just had a lot on her mind. Or maybe nothing was wrong at all, you just perceived a funny tone of voice. I know I am super-sensistive and sometimes think I notice things that aren't really there. Assume that things are fine unless she tells you otherwise. :-)
C
Hi & welcome!
Sheri Ann
Hi JD, I very rarely talk to any of my friends on the weekends.
Sheri Ann
JD, the lexapro has made me totally stop having these thoughts.
Sheri Ann
Thanks! I totally agree with you, but the wonderful advice never seems to stick!!! How do I make it stick? I think I just need to work through the fear of people being mad at me or not liking me. It's a part of life, and I am driving myself crazy trying to please everyone. Thanks again for the sweet message. I really appreciate it.
xo, JD
I HEAR YA!
Lexapro really didn't help me. Right now I am on Paxil, and it's made a difference, but the rumination still comes and goes.
ugg.
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