vulnerability and agoraphobia
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vulnerability and agoraphobia
| Mon, 06-12-2006 - 9:59pm |
HI,
I am hoping everyone is well. My question is about the panic that I am feeling when I think about going out,especially with new people. Is it true that the more vulnerable you feel, the more social anxiety you experience? I am having a hard time going out with a man that I have been friends with for months; we haven't gone out that much, but it seems that I freak out whenever I think about going, and I don't know why. He doesn't know that I have an anxiety disorder...and we are friends.
Also, I am trying to find single people to hang around with in my area, and I joined a meetup group. But, the events are centered around drinking and bars (I've never been a drinker) and to be surrounded by strangers far from home, not being familiar with the area and people totally scares me. Is that normal? Or am I just being a baby? I want so much to meet new people, but there is no one in my area. I'd have to travel into Boston, which I can't do. I am so frustrated because I want to reach out to others, but have such a hard time doing so. Any advice would be appreciated. I'm just tired of being alone so much. I am beating myself up for these feelings too, which I know doesn't help anything.
Susan
I am hoping everyone is well. My question is about the panic that I am feeling when I think about going out,especially with new people. Is it true that the more vulnerable you feel, the more social anxiety you experience? I am having a hard time going out with a man that I have been friends with for months; we haven't gone out that much, but it seems that I freak out whenever I think about going, and I don't know why. He doesn't know that I have an anxiety disorder...and we are friends.
Also, I am trying to find single people to hang around with in my area, and I joined a meetup group. But, the events are centered around drinking and bars (I've never been a drinker) and to be surrounded by strangers far from home, not being familiar with the area and people totally scares me. Is that normal? Or am I just being a baby? I want so much to meet new people, but there is no one in my area. I'd have to travel into Boston, which I can't do. I am so frustrated because I want to reach out to others, but have such a hard time doing so. Any advice would be appreciated. I'm just tired of being alone so much. I am beating myself up for these feelings too, which I know doesn't help anything.
Susan

Hi Susan!
Sheri Ann
Kel, those were some great ideas! I especially like the college class one.
Sheri Ann
HI Jan,
Thank you for sending me the like to the self esteem board. I'll be sure to check it out. It has been hard, as I have tried to date (blind dates) and it has been hard. But, I am doing it, and refuse to settle for less than what I deserve (for once)! So, there is no one in particular that I am dating on a regular basis now. I hate to admit it, but I just haven't felt anything for the people that I have been out on dates with (except anxiety!). I am still comparing them to the one that broke my heart.
Your thoughtfulness is appreciated, and I look forward to learning more about the self esteem board!
take care, susan
YVW:)
"I am doing it, and refuse to settle for less than what I deserve (for once)! " I am so happy to hear this. All of us with anxiety should take notes from you. You are beginning to love yourself. Whoo Hoo! Good luck! (((hugs))) jan
Jan-
How you make me blush :) thanks for being so supportive of me! take care. Susan