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| Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:17am |
Hello everyone! Im new on this board and thought i might get some help from here. Im 28 year old and have been married for the last 3 and a half years. 4 months back i moved out of my husbands house due to marital issues and since than have been living with my widow mother. My problem is that due to terrible married life im unable to forget and forgive my husband for what he has done to me in the past 3 years. He cheated on me, he disrespected me in front of his friends and family, his family is his top priority, he listened to every word his mother said (who disliked me from the very beginning). I feel i never got the opportunity to feel like a wife. He was never satisfied with me in any case. I believe he couldnt accept that he was no longer a bachelor, he kinda couldnt take up his responsiblity as a husband. He was also very much pampered by his mom, due to which he never wanted to earn his living and we always had financial issues as well. Although he is willing to get back and resolve our issues.....he has also started working full time but im still not ready for it. I constantly believe he will not change, but i still have given him a chance till december to prove himself.
But meanwhile im unable to control my temper, for instance whenever i speak to him we fight and i abuse him with the worlds most horrendous words and still he mangages to keep his cool. Later i feel sad abt it and i even cry. I know this is not a sober way to deal with your husband......but still my anger is taking me no where. My anger and depression has changed my attitude towards life......ive become a pessimist....i always think negatively.....my appetite has changed, my skin has become bad......my hair has started to gray.....i dont look good anymore and i feel more depressed. I really want to do something abt it.....my therapist has given me xanax to relax but i dont want to depend upon medications....i want to improve my condition myself. I hope i might get some good advise from here.
thanks for listening.

Hello Mag,
And welcome I am glad you found our board, I am lynn and I was once told by a very wise lady that meds are tools to helps us, we all no haow you feel about taking meds but we also know that it helps us and that is what counts. I'm sorry I couldn't give you anymore advice on your marrage I am not the person who could give good advice on that, but there are graet ladies here that can, Don't be a stranger and come back and ask or vent as much as you like ok. You have takeen the first step in heloing yourself and that takes courage be poor of yourself that you did something to help yourself. Take care and post agin we would love to here from you.
((((Big Big hugs))) lynn
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