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Registered: 06-15-2006
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 8:16am

hi everyone.

On Wednesday, my DD will be done with first grade. Thanks to my disorder, I had to quit my job 3 weeks ago. I'm glad though b/c I can stay home with DD.

Her father lives an hour and a half away, and under normal circumstances he has her every other weekend. this will be the first summer where she goes to spend a significant amount of time with him. She goes for 2 2 week visits with him. Her first visit starts on July 2nd. I can feel axiety in me when I think about her being gone. My BF works full time during the day so I'll be alone most of the time. It's hard to find ways to keep busy, with me not working our budget has gone way down...

I've also been having dreams, alot of them are of my DD having the same disorder when she gets older...

I hate getting so panicy when I think about this stuff...like DD being gone to her father's, I worry about how she'll be while she's gone, what if she gets sick or hurt...

I needed to vent...sort of...thanks for listening

Jen

 

 

~~Jen~~

 

 

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In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 9:47am

Hi Jen,
Welcome Boy!!! do I remember the time of my ds going to visit his dad but you know what she will be fine I sure she will call you if she isn't or you will know. but I always play a game with myself to see how much I could spring or winter clean when he was gone or go pamper my self in the tub get busy that is what got me through it. I hope I have helped alittle and you vent or post anytime and we would love to here an update. Have a good Day and stay busy.

Big Big Hugs lynn

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 4:38pm

Jen, I totally agree with Lynn.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 11-25-2005
In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 9:06pm
Jen I am an old lady compared to you but I have to say
that when my husband left for a trip to Germany with my dd
and grand daughter I was very upset!!! I have never been without him
here. I made a list of things I have always wanted to do and have put
off for one reason or another---- when he left I was a mess for a day
and night but soon I realized it is time to make PEACE with myself!!
I spent my days and nights doing what I WANTED!! It ended up being
a good relaxing time for me. I finished the photo albums, cleaned and
cleaned, babied myself with long baths and did my nails, read a book,
hung out with our other daughter her boyfriend and my son!!!
I realized I was so different without him around-------- how interesting!!
Take it ONE DAY AT A TIME!!! and yes come here and get some SUPPORT!!!
WE know how you feel----- GB, Judy
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Registered: 06-15-2006
In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 6:48am

Thank you so much everyone. Knowing I can comne here helps me a great deal. I see I can make some real friends here. DD leaves on July 2nd for her 1st visit. I'll keep you all updated.

~Jen

 

 

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Registered: 06-03-2006
In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 3:08pm
Thats tough.. I would take one day at a time thats all you can do.. I know its hard!! Just try.. I am sure that if your DD wants to speak with you when she is at her dads it would be OK right? Is your daughter looking forward to spending time with her dad? If she is try to have the attitude to be looking forward for your daughter to be going somewhere and having a fun time!! If you panic is real bad, I would speak to your doctor about it.. There are a lot of meds out there.. Theraoy works well too if you find the right person.. The best of luck to you..
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In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 2:58pm

Hi there. I do not have kids but I think I understand how you feel. I spend lots of time with my hubby and when he is not around, I get anxious. I think it is a change of what we are used to that throws us sometimes and being alone scares me because then I tend to think too much. I am sure you will be missing her naturally but maybe the change is what is scaring you. I find that noise helps me. Turn on the TV, maybe music too, open your blinds to let light in, just keep things lit up and activity going on if you feel uneasy. Also, if it gets to bad, go to a bookstore or something like that. Just being around activity helps me some.

Kim

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: blzzrdqueen
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 5:58pm
It seems that many of us with anxiety have problems with changes in our lives. Take it as it comes, Jen. Give yourself lots of attention with a lunch or movie with a gf, a massage, pedicure or just a soak in a bubble bath. Your dd will be fine. Remember to belly breathe & think positively. We all worry about our children having an anxiety disorder. Learning to cope better with our fears & anxiety is the best way to help our kids deal with whatever they may face in life. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan