Is this normal?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is this normal?
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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 3:44pm

Is it normal when you're in therapy to go through periods where you don't want to open up about things with your therapist? I have nothing against my therapist at all (I really like her), but it is hard for me to be open in general with people, and for the past couple of weeks I've gone to my sessions not wanting to say much. The first time, she gave me a free ride and we just chatted about random stuff. Last week, she said it was fine if I didn't want to talk, but that she was going to push me about all the reasons *why* I don't open up to people. Fair enough. But I can't go in there for a 3rd week in a row not wanting to talk. I don't think it has anything to do with her. I've noticed lately that I don't want to talk to anybody--friends, my mom, etc. My therapist and I agree that for awhile, I was doing really well opening up to her. I guess I felt like it was starting to be too much.


Laura

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Registered: 11-25-2005
In reply to: asc2001
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 9:46pm
Hi Laura!! Therapy and talking can be hard work!!
It may cause you to feel bad for awhile but the outcome is
worth it!! Sometimes it is hard to think of things to say
to a therapist--- unless there is a lot going on in your life!
I keep a journal for my doc and he reads it and reacts to my
writing- it has worked for me because I TALK TOO MUCH LOL!!!
I GUESS YOU CAN'T WIN!!! I would go off on tagents and not
really discuss what I started out with!! Maybe you and your
therapist could make some goals for you??? I would also keep
tract of your moods and what seems to trigger feeling bad!
Hope this helps you a little!! Judy
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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: asc2001
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 10:47am

If you don't open up & talk, I'm afraid therapy will be

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: asc2001
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 10:59am
Nice to see you, Laura. I think you have had this problem before & we tossed it around. I know that there are things I'd rather not discuss with my *T* but probably it's those sort of issues that we find uncomfortable to share. Your *T* is a professional & able to deal with anything you have to say. Maybe it's a trust issue? Perhaps you have shared things in your past & others have hurt you in someway when you were open & honest. Your *T* is not like one of those ppl. She can be trusted. OTOH, your *T* should respect any boundaries you'd like to set. I think you guys have had a good rapport so far & can talk these things out openly without any fear of setting back your recovery. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan