switching therapists

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Registered: 05-29-2003
switching therapists
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 11:43pm

hi everyone,

Hope everyone is doing well. I posted last week, and I didn't recieve any responses. Hmmm. You know I got a complex!!

Anyways, I needed some advice. I am going to my therapist tomorrow. I am not sure if he is the right doctor for me. I think he is good, and he is pointing me in the right direction, however, I feel like he doesn't have much empathy. I guess I just don't feel comfortable. I can't quite put my finger on it, and it is bugging me. I want to get over this anxiety that is clouding my life so badly, and I am not sure if he is the best one to help me. I don't know what questions to ask myself to know if he is good for me. He is good at helping me "role play" and he is good at pointing certain things out to me. I don't know, I am so confused. I just want the anxiety to stop. Am I not doing something right? I am totally honest with him about me and my life. I tell him everything (atleast I think i am). I am nervous to go tomorrow, and I hate that feeling. I know a lot of it is my own stuff, and I don't want to project it onto him, however, after all this time, I should be more comfortable.

Thanks for listening.

love, JD

ps. Just finished "The Other Bolyn Girl." 661 pages. I forced myself to finish it. I have never read a book that long in my life. Only took me 7 months, but I did it!! Yea Me! Truthfully, by the end of the book, I didn't even remember what the story was about. Just had to share.

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Registered: 10-31-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 10:56am

That is a hard one! Maybe try him another couple of times and if you still have that gut instict there is something not quite right, look for someone else. Although, if he is really helping, you may consider learning enough to survive comfortablly before you find someone else. I've seen so many different docs and only found one I was comfortable with. It is hard (at least for me) to find a good doc that I trust and feel comfortable with. Moral of the story, trust yourself but do not act too quickly.

Hugs to you!

Laura

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 12:44pm
good advice. Thanks
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Registered: 05-27-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 2:22pm

Hey JD, I don't know how long you've been going to your therapist, but sometimes you just don't click with one, thats okay...you shouldn't feel bad about switching....do so if you need too


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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:56pm

Jolie, you said he is helping you and pointing you in the right direction.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 6:25pm
Therapists are trained to act professionally & deal with problems as they crop up. If you don't feel comfortable, Jolie, then tell the *T.* We are entitled to the best of care. Don't take second best. I have always advocated that the patient & *T* should both have goals that can be shared & agreed upon by both parties. Good luck! (((hugs))jan