Fed up with social anxiety

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Fed up with social anxiety
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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 9:31pm

I am a 29 year old woman with no friends. I have some friends back home that I talk to now and then, but I moved to the city I am in now about 2 years ago and besides my fiance and his best friend, I have no one. It is so embarressing. My fiance has friends but I just can't click with them.
I am attractive, nice and fun, and yet I cannot make new friends. i haven't made a new friend for over 6 years.
Social anxiety disorder is killing me. I am on Lexapro and it isn't doing anything. I went to counseling 3 differnt times, and I had nothing to say. I dont' know why I am afraid of people. I feel like people are repelled by me. I feel like everyone hates me. I am a grown woman and I dont' have a single girlfriend to go out with. I just don't know how to make friends. I've tried takeing a class, and no one talked to me. I tried meeting people online, but I was too afraid to meet them in person. I say hello to my neighbors and they ignore me.
I don't know what I can do. I really want to have people to be close to besides my fiance. I have no trouble with romantic relationships, or with finding a date if I'm single. But no one is interested in being my friend.

I feel alone and like no one understands what I feel. I am frustrated and tired of being this way.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 6:39pm
Thanks for posting your experiences. It's great that you have found us. Don't be a stranger. I have had the same thoughts that I was *addicted* to antidepressants, but that isn't true. Also, over the years my attitude has changed & though I'm reluctant to go on meds, I see they're a valuable tool to help with my anxiety & panic. I don't have to take them forever, but if I need too, why suffer more than I have too? Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan




 

 


 



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