Fears, I could use some insight...

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fears, I could use some insight...
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Tue, 07-04-2006 - 3:45pm
Hey all, sorry to post AGAIN..... but I was just wondering if anyone else along with their anxiety, experiences a huge fear of being left alone?? I hate being left alone to the point that when no one is here with me I get very anxious and worry about what will happen, my big thing is, What would happen if I died? no one would find me for atleast 5-6 hours,and if that happened, what would my baby do?? It is crazy, I know this, but I cant seem to get my brain to accept that it is a ridiculous thought. Even if I am just on the phone with someone, I feel better about it. It is driving me nuts, I miss the days when I could lay on my couch and relax, not worrying about such things. I miss the carefree days with my daughter. Please tell me if you are having these problems too and if so, what help to calm your thoughts??? (PS-- This thing about not wanting to be alone has only been going on for about a month and a half)
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Registered: 10-02-2004
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 4:04pm

Hi. I can relate. I really miss being able to lounge around too. I used to be able to be alone at home and just veg out and do whatever I wanted to without feeling anxious. Now I do not like being alone at all. I do not have kids but I am married and I do not like being home alone. I do not fear dying while I am alone but I can certainly relate because I just end up having other worries like if I am alone I will have an anxiety attack or I will go crazy and not know what I am doing or will lose control of myself. That is about the same as your fear of dying while alone, so yeah, it sucks.

I try to open up doors and blinds to let as much light in as I can. If it is dark outside, I turn on lots of lights. I also have the TV on even if I am not watching it and will have the radio on too sometimes. I figure something is bound to grab my attention and just having the noise helps me.

If I get really bad off, I will go outside and walk my dogs. Motion seems to help me. I also take drives. Maybe you and your daughter can take walks. Being outside seems to help me not feel so enclosed.

-Kim

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:41pm

When I first became agoraphobic, I had a horrible fear of being home alone.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:42pm

You had some great ideas.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 06-14-2006
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:49pm
I have similar fears, I would rather be with a ton of people than by myself. I feel if something happens to me someone will take me to the hospital. For the past two days my thoughts have been a lot more controled. I think it is the Lexapro. It is nice not overworrying everything constantly! Sheri
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Registered: 01-28-2006
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:55pm
I even have trouble when my husband is off for the weekend and then Monday comes and I am like "I cannot be alone". Then I have to realize that this is unrealistic and I am letting my anxiety get the best of me. I guess I take it one minute at a time and A LOT of positive self talk. Sometimes, I even look in the mirror and say - I CAN DO THIS! I WILL MAKE IT THOUGH TODAY. It also helps to keep really busy ( I have a bunch of kids - so not a problem) so your mind does not wander into axiety. I too miss being able just to chill out at home.
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:26am

Well, I am definetly glad to know that I am not alone. It is very comforting to me to know that there are people you can talk to that KNOW EXACTLY how your feeling. I talk to my friends, mom and husband about all of these issues, and they are all really supportive, but its just different to talk to some one who has been there... Thank you all!!

Kindra