When will it end
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When will it end
| Fri, 07-14-2006 - 1:09pm |
I have GAD. I know that I will always have anxiety but this time it is a little ridiculus. I broke a realtionship off with a bad friend. There were so many bad things about it I cannot even start to list them. In turn, I lost all of our mutal friends. I did know this was going to happen. The thing is its like I cannot get over it. When I run into someone who knows her and me I obess about it. A family member ran into her and they told me about it. I had an axiety problem right there. It was nothing but it is like I obsess about it. What is wrong with me? Will I ever get over a friendship gone bad? Maybe I thought the friendship would last forever, that it was perfect and now it is over -- my expectations were too high. We were only friends for 2-3 years, but I have always had problems with keeping/making good friends. Should I swear off friends? Since this has happened (7mo ago) my aniety has been really high. Give me advice.....THANKS

I am sorry to hear this. My anxiety causes me to obssess over thoughts & analyze & re-analyze the situation. Others on the board have reported that allowing themselves a certain amount of time to think about the situation works. Maybe limit your thoughts to 20 or 30 minutes, then move on. Or, maybe you could throw up an imaginary stop sign. Both techniques take practice to work.
When you can get yourself in a more relaxed state through new coping skills, meds, therapy, etc. I think you will be able to make new friends. You shouldn't swear off friends because of this bad experience. We all need others to rely on for friendship, support, etc. What have you tried to get over this break-up? Have you tried meeting new ppl through joining a club or taking a class? Hobbies such as reading, needlework & volunteering keep my mind occupied. I hope you can find your niche. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan
I have had a similar experience, and it really bothered me, as well.
Sheri Ann