cronic GAD and two children
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cronic GAD and two children
| Wed, 07-19-2006 - 6:55pm |
As much as I love my children and planned to have them so close together, -they are 20 months apart almost to the day- I am finding it very very hard on a daily basis dealing with them and trying to get all the things done that a mom has to do. My kids are just turning 4 and 2 years old.
I am realy discouraged. I love them both soooo very much and have great times with them, but I feel like there is so much to do I get all worked up and then my stress shuts my body down and I can't do anythin. The problem with not doing anything is, well, with the kids, it never happens. I litteraly spend my days breaking up arguments -mom she took my toy. mom he hit me- and giving time outs. and then all the laundy an dishes and vacuming is still there for me to do, and I CAN"T LIVE IN A MESS without feeling stressed to the MAX.
Most days I put myslef to bed when they go down for a nap, cause by 12.00 I am so stressed I can't deal with anything anymore, but then once again nothing gets down in the house and it is an eivil rotating cyle.
ANYONE ELSE OUT THERE LIKE ME, Struggling with full time life as a mom and Anxiety disorder?
what can I do to help myself have better days? How have you delt with it and to young children?
I am realy discouraged. I love them both soooo very much and have great times with them, but I feel like there is so much to do I get all worked up and then my stress shuts my body down and I can't do anythin. The problem with not doing anything is, well, with the kids, it never happens. I litteraly spend my days breaking up arguments -mom she took my toy. mom he hit me- and giving time outs. and then all the laundy an dishes and vacuming is still there for me to do, and I CAN"T LIVE IN A MESS without feeling stressed to the MAX.
Most days I put myslef to bed when they go down for a nap, cause by 12.00 I am so stressed I can't deal with anything anymore, but then once again nothing gets down in the house and it is an eivil rotating cyle.
ANYONE ELSE OUT THERE LIKE ME, Struggling with full time life as a mom and Anxiety disorder?
what can I do to help myself have better days? How have you delt with it and to young children?

Hello! Welcome to our caring community. You are NOT alone. Like many women nowadays, trying to do it all is impossible. It's not your kids, because I know you wouldn't trade them for the world. I think it may be your expectations. Like most of us with anxiety disorders, you are probably very smart, a high achiever & alot on the perfectionistic side. Somehow you need to become your own best friend instead of your own worst enemy.
Have you taken a look through our *coping tips & tricks* folder below? Make sure that you click the more button when you come to the end to get to the second page. Over the years I have learned to work around & through a less than perfect house. As long as my kids were fed & clean, I learned to be happy. Life is too short to allow housework to be a priority. When the kids get to *scrappin* as my gramma used to call it, that's the time for mom to take a breather & do something fun like finger painting or baking a batch of cookies with them. Nothing shut my kids up any quicker than when I said it's time mom reads you girls a book;)
I hope you have some interests or hobbies that get you out of the house or give you some time to yourself. We care about you & hope you get to feeling better. Post anytime & join in our chats. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan
try REALLY HARD to find a babysitter and clean!
is your mom or siblings around?
and remember this is temporary, when they are in
school you are not going to know what to do with
yourself!!
i have a disabled 5 yo and panic disorder, when my
dh takes him to the movies or something after about
2 hours i miss him and can't wait for them to get home....
YOU NEED A BREAK, work on getting it.
kris
I can sympathize, I have 2 kids that are 16 months apart, I swear it was like raising twins!!
Sheri Ann