dh made fun of my anxiety in fight
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dh made fun of my anxiety in fight
| Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:57pm |
oh ladies...dh and i got in a huge fight....i was upset because i told him i have a pdoc apt on thursday and said i need you to not work thur night so you can watch tyler just 2 days ago, and tonight he told me he's working on thursday...i JUST told him about this apt, so i reminded him of this...he always forgets things and its really upsetting to me becuase at times i feel like he doesn't care about anyone else but himself...
anyways it blew up into us screaming at each other and i just kept yelling "shut up, just don't talk to me, just get away from me, your making it worse STOP" and then he said..."you know i work alot....what do you do? you do nothing all day long...you just sit around and do nothing all day."

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oh sweetie.... i just wanted to cry reading your post. Those comments stung me just reading them. I can't imagine how much they hurt you.
(((Heather))) I'm so sorry you had to go through this!
Sheri Ann
Just as you post to the board about all the stress you're under, Heather, your dh is under the same amount of stress if not more. Being the sole provider can't be easy for him. Watching what you're going through with the anxiety & the high risk pregnancy must be difficult. Try to keep things in perspective. He was worn out & you were yelling @ him. Don't allow this to destroy what has & will be a good relationship.
When the time's right, tell dh that you were hurt but don't shame him or blame him. Things always go better when there's time to cool off. Things will be fine when you both realize it's not a personal thing. Though I'm certain it was hard for you NOT to take it personally. Wishing many better days! (((Hugs))) jan
hi ladies....thanks for the support...sincerely.
Heather, thanks for the update.
Sheri Ann
and feeling that you are not important since he forgot! This happens
to all of us--- HE is stressed also so the mix made for a big mess!!!
I hope that SOON one of you will tell the other that you love each other
cause I know you do!!! He did not mean to hurt you I am SURE OF THAT!!!
Give yourself some big HUGS and remember YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN!!!!
You are such a strong woman and will get through this but also NEED HIS
SUPPORT!!! HUGS! Judy
oh ladies...what a day i've had...my anxiety has been some what of an issue today...today was REALLY REALLY stressful.
(((Heather)))
I am glad that you went in to the doc and got checked out, hopefully you will have peace of mind that your pregnancy is ok. The pain is most likely stress related and you need to relax. Can you set yourself up for a little bathroom time and soak in a bubble bath with some soft music and candles?? Sounds relaxing just thinking about it.
Your dh is stressed too so I understand why you had an argument. That doesn't make what he said ok, but hopefully takes the edge off a little. I know with anxiety it is difficult to take a break from the situation but things will cool down after a bit.
Take care of yourself and try to relax. Have you ever checked out the Stress and Women board here on the home and garden message boards?? They have some great tips.
Hugs,
Lisa
Heather,
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I can relate. It looks like my job troubles are a result of my Generalized Anxiety Disorder. My dh had a fight with me a couple of months ago regarding me not doing anything all day when I was pregnant with my daughter. I accused of him of not knowing how it is to be pregnant, and not to know what I was going through. One time, he even made fun of my relaxation exercises. He apologized since then for me not doing anything at home, because he said, "That was the monster side of me coming out." Since then though, he's tried to understand what I'm going through. I remember having a discussion w/my psychologist about my dh's attitude. He said sometimes, men have a problem expressing their feelings, and that he is being supportive, and that you just have to forgive him.
I'm hoping that over the next couple of days, your husband will be more understanding after he's had a chance to cool down, and maybe you'll forgive him the same way?
I don't think those people who do not have what we have understand what we're going through. Still though, I try to have a positive attitude. Hey, have you thought about getting that book, "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living"? It's by Dale Carnegie. It's a great book that was required reading for my brother at the Naval Academy. It's actually helped calm my nerves. Offers practical advice about how to cure your worries. It's helped me! Try it!
Yaddiya
(((Heather))) I'm glad everything checked out okay for you.
Sheri Ann
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