dh made fun of my anxiety in fight

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Registered: 05-27-2003
dh made fun of my anxiety in fight
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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:57pm

oh ladies...dh and i got in a huge fight....i was upset because i told him i have a pdoc apt on thursday and said i need you to not work thur night so you can watch tyler just 2 days ago, and tonight he told me he's working on thursday...i JUST told him about this apt, so i reminded him of this...he always forgets things and its really upsetting to me becuase at times i feel like he doesn't care about anyone else but himself...


anyways it blew up into us screaming at each other and i just kept yelling "shut up, just don't talk to me, just get away from me, your making it worse STOP" and then he said..."you know i work alot....what do you do? you do nothing all day long...you just sit around and do nothing all day."

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 9:58pm

Hi Heather-
Im sorry that happened, I know how much it hurts when the closest person to you says such hurtful things. I have heard a few zingers myself about my frequest Dr's appts and my DH is anti medication and I hear that its all in my mind. It seems your DH was angry and said that because maybe he feels the pressure of just him working. Anger can bring out words that are hard if not imposible to take back. I hope by now you guys worked it out. At one point he must have supported your decision to quit work, so he was probably just angry and felt dumb for forgetting. My mom told me most men dont understand anxiety, panic unless they experienced it themselves. I feel my DH considers it a weakness even though he has come around and is trying to be supportive. (I still dont tell him how I am feeling at times)

I hope everything worked itsself out, I know it stinks and hurts so much.
Donna

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 8:54am

hi ladies....thanks so much again for the support....your replies are one of the few things that i look foward to these days.

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 3:53pm
I'm sorry to hear that... he sounds like he's very stressed. It was wrong of him to use that against you, but you should also see his point of view. He has to work and if you aren't working it is a burden on him. I can see the issues on both sides here...

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