Phone phobic--need some talking through
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| Mon, 08-14-2006 - 10:54am |
I get really nervous talking on the phone, especially business calls or to people I don't know very well.
My fantasy dream job has opened up at my alma mater. I want this job more than anything I've ever wanted before, and I'm not just saying that. I sent in my formal application last week, but I also want to contact the director of the department on my own and express my interest in the job and offer to send her my resume if she hasn't already gotten it from HR. I had planned on sending an e-mail because I'm much more coherent in writing (I tend to stumble over myself and sound awkward on the phone), but my *T* wants me to phone the lady AND offer to drop off my resume in person. Which I think is a little bit much, but what do I know? I had thought I would compromise and call the woman today and then e-mail the resume if necessary. This morning actually. But now I'm starting to get really afraid of the call and what I'll say.
I could really use some advice on whether I should e-mail the lady--which is what I'm more comfortable doing or if I should telephone her--which is more assertive. And any tips on how to calm myself down for the phone call if that's what I end up doing. I don't want to take a Klonopin because it slows my brain down and I need to be able to think more quickly on the phone than I would be able to if I took a pill. Which is completely ironic because the Klonopin would make me relax and just make the call instead of sitting here with butterflies in my stomach. GAH!
Laura


Hi. Laura! I am sure your *T* wants you to make a very good impression. Sounds like the phone call & follow up visit are just the ticket. Have you tried composing your thoughts & writing down what you'd like to say in the call? I have found that when I have something serious to say to my dd or maybe even give her a *talking too* this works best. I don't rehearse it much. Just go over it enough to get the key points I want to get across down pat. There's much less chance of steering away from the purpose of my talk(which my dd loves to do.)
Remember to take deep breaths & make the call when you won't be distressed or disturbed by others. I know you can do it! Good luck & let us know how it goes. I sure hope you get this dream job. You deserve it! (((hugs))) jan
Laura, I am so happy you are going for this job!
Sheri Ann