This could easily cause me anxiety...

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Registered: 12-28-2003
This could easily cause me anxiety...
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Mon, 08-21-2006 - 6:04pm

...need support!!!


About a month ago, ds, Cory, was accused of googling porn sites at his friend's house and showing them to the little brother (age 7).

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 12-25-2004
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 9:30pm

Jennifer, I don't know how you parents do it. Raising kidlets comes with all kinds of situations that seem strife with potential conflict and anxiety. So kudos to you for being able to do it in the first place.

Now, granted, I don't have children, but I imagine that if I did, and another parent treated my child that way, I'd go through the roof. You should have been called and consulted before they decided to interrogate your child.

Perhaps, to make this a little easier on yourself, you should call the mother and talk to her about the situation. Explain to her how you feel about the situation, your doubts about whether or not Cory did this, and explain to her the affect it's having on your son. Then ask her if she thinks her husband would be willing to apologize to him for yelling like he did. Regardless of whether they believe he did it or not, they should be able to see that the confrontation they had with him was inappropriate. At least I hope they can.

Not sure if this is helpful, or not, but I'll be thinking of you and praying that it works out.

Jess

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Registered: 01-28-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 9:51pm

I do not like confrontation either. About a year ago a friend, humiliated me in front of a bunch of other friends. I could not deal with it at the time, so I just walked away. I knew this so called good friend would call me later. I wrote down everything that I wanted to say so I was ready. I did not want to be all anxiety ridden or too upset to remember what I was going to say. I put the note by the phone so I was ready.

She did not call me, she showed up at my house! But I was prepared with what I wanted to say (I had read my not about a hundred times). I am glad that it happened face to face. Neadless to say the "friendship" ended. I feel better know. I felt good knowing that I could handle the confrontation.

I have kids and I know what it is like with other parents. Do your best. Remember that you are the only one that will stand up for your child. You know him the best, you are his mother. Times like this are hard on parents. I am a mother too. I think your child needs time to heal.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 9:10am

First, let me say I am also an avoider.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:39pm
Thank you, ladies, for the advice and encouragement with this icky situation.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi