Have to make some hard decisions
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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 10:08am |
Well, I was planning to call my ob gyn tomorrow to make my 6 week check up appointment. I really need to know what I am doing about birth control. My DH wants me to get my tubes tied. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I don't want to do that. Although I did want another baby I didn't even expect to try to get pregnant with baby #3 till this time. So he came a year early. That's fine. I discussed with DH that I hoped when I saw that I would feel like our family is complete. Well, because the birth experience was pretty traumatic for me this time, I didn't even think about all that. Well, after we got home and I really took the time to hold him and think about that I didn't feel like our family was complete. I have been avoiding that for a while.
I know I don't want the tubal. But something in my heart tells me that I need to do it because I can finally put this family thing to rest. Sure I will be sad about it, but I will get over it. Then, I tell myself to get an IUD. It is very effective, and in a couple/few years if I truly know we are done with kids I will have good birth control in place. So I need to call my insurance and find out if it covers it. But for some reason having a device that stays in my body for years and doesn't come out makes me nervous. I could go on the pill or do the nuvaring again, but I am bad about stopping it and that is when I usually get pregnant.
So I am going to make a list of pros and cons to about having anothe baby. I know my DH is not for having another baby anyway, but I need to do this for my self. I need to face something and deal with it instead of pushing issues that are painful for me to the side. Because as I have found they can resurface later.


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My question is this.....
If your DH is set on no more children( which seems to be the case) and you dont want a tubal ligation....Why not suggest he get a vasectomy? Its not too painful and the healing time is very short compared with a tubal ligation.
It would take care of you getting an IUD(i dont like them personally) and the tubal ligation. You get what you want...no tubes tied and avoiding major surgery and he gets what he wants..no more children...
As with the last post, if your husband gets the vasectomy, then your AP will be lessened with you not having to go through yet another procedure (I'm including labor in procedures). Of course, if you think you may want more, you are right. You need to decide what is best for you.
I want to have a baby but I'm terrified. I kinda have some of the same situations you do. It is so hard.
Keeping you in my thoughts!
Laura
(((Yavonne))) I feel as tho you are not ready to get a tubal ligation.
Sheri Ann
you just had a baby...give yourself some time to make this HUGE decision (if you can)...good for you for dealing with it asap, but maybe you should let it lye for a few weeks until your body and hormones can get back into check? i know i'm too hormonal right now to be making any life changing decisions and i'd image i will be 2 weeks after birth too...
i agree that you should deal with this issue instead of pushing it aside, but could you hold off on any major decisions for a few weeks?
just my opinion...i am going through the "same" thing...i say now i DON"T DON"T DON"T want anyother children cause i am sooo miserably anxious and depressed while pregnate...i'm all ready to get dh "fixed" (and turns out he hates me preggo too and is ready to get "fixed" too), but...i am "waiting" to make this decision official until a few months till after the baby is born and i'm feeling better (hopefully)...
let us know what you decide
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