Have to make some hard decisions
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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 10:08am |
Well, I was planning to call my ob gyn tomorrow to make my 6 week check up appointment. I really need to know what I am doing about birth control. My DH wants me to get my tubes tied. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I don't want to do that. Although I did want another baby I didn't even expect to try to get pregnant with baby #3 till this time. So he came a year early. That's fine. I discussed with DH that I hoped when I saw that I would feel like our family is complete. Well, because the birth experience was pretty traumatic for me this time, I didn't even think about all that. Well, after we got home and I really took the time to hold him and think about that I didn't feel like our family was complete. I have been avoiding that for a while.
I know I don't want the tubal. But something in my heart tells me that I need to do it because I can finally put this family thing to rest. Sure I will be sad about it, but I will get over it. Then, I tell myself to get an IUD. It is very effective, and in a couple/few years if I truly know we are done with kids I will have good birth control in place. So I need to call my insurance and find out if it covers it. But for some reason having a device that stays in my body for years and doesn't come out makes me nervous. I could go on the pill or do the nuvaring again, but I am bad about stopping it and that is when I usually get pregnant.
So I am going to make a list of pros and cons to about having anothe baby. I know my DH is not for having another baby anyway, but I need to do this for my self. I need to face something and deal with it instead of pushing issues that are painful for me to the side. Because as I have found they can resurface later.


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I meant to put in there about the hormonal thing & I totally forgot that!
Sheri Ann
Let us know what you decide!
Sheri Ann
Yvonne,
I have to put in my 2 cents about the IUD. I have one (about a year now) and I love it! They are not the same as the old ones that carried a lot of risks. For me, I have almost no periods anymore (about 2 days of spotting every 3 months) and if you ever changed your mind about wanting another baby you can have it taken out. (you need to get a new one every 5 years anyway) It was a perfect choice for me and my dh who wanted no more kids, but didn't love the idea of permanent options. And they are more effective than any other method -- as effective as having dh get a vasectomy. I believe it is 99.9%-- when you see the charts of the effectiveness, it is right there at the top. (I am assuming you are thinking of getting the Mirena. I think that there is another non-hormone one, but it isn't as effective. I have the Mirena.)
Anyway, I just wanted you to know that that the IUD isn't a bad option.
Karen
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