Money anxiety...

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Registered: 08-22-2006
Money anxiety...
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 3:55pm

I have to say one of the major external causes of my anxiety is money. I'm sure a lot of you can relate to this. Both my husband and I work hard and we're still not able to get over the "hump" of debt and trying to pay bills and raise kids. I want SO MUCH not to put such a huge emphasis on it and live my life -- I feel I'm missing so many moments by constantly worrying and going over every penny we spend. I know my husband views me as the warden in his own personal financial prison. It strains our relationship. I'm always thinking in the future and planning ways to pay things off and save for later -- but I feel like I'm giving up so much too. We have a roof over our heads and food on the table. Why can't I be happy with that??

Anyone else deal with this struggle?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 4:08pm
I get like that!!! Worse during PMS. Sometimes my DH picks up an extra shift and that helps. I get nervous that winter is coming because oil was so out of control last year.
I just try to relax and when I do save on something remind myself that I just saved $$. I do the best I can to pay down our bills and that is all I can do.
I don't have any real good advise but I wanted you to know that you are not alone in having $$ anxiety.
Eileen
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Registered: 09-16-2005
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 4:18pm

Unfortunatly finincial problems can cause a lot of anxiety and stress. I use to have that problem with my ex husband but i have since learned from my partner that we are the richest people in the world. Finincially we have nothing. But on the other hand we have the world at our fingertips.

Keitha

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 4:31pm
Yes, I can definitely relate! Money is one of the biggest issues between my BF and I and one of my biggest worries and cause of anxiety! Between the both of us we SHOULD be able to pay bills and have leftover but we don't and I'm not sure why. We have tried budgeting and still no help, I just don't know what to do either! and I can't imagine how much harder it is for you with children! *hugz* You aren't alone!

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 6:40pm

A social worker told me once that money is never an issue. Not until you don't have any;) This is a real stress on relationships. I find that systematically learning ways to cut corners, save, etc. helps me deal with the associated anxiety.


Take a look @ what iVillage has to offer on these boards. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan


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Registered: 10-03-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 11:04pm
Sorry you feeling down.
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 3:37pm

My dh & I have taken a different approach.

Sheri Ann