How do I....................

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Registered: 01-28-2006
How do I....................
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 5:57pm

I was just wondering if anyone had any helpful suggestions for me. I have GAD but this is my problem. I cannot forgive myself for some of the decisions that I have made in my life in the pase. Thus, having trouble making any decision from then on. I doubt everything.

I also feel that I do not deserve happiness. Whenever I feel happy - I instantly kick on the anxiety and all of the reasons that I should not be happy. I am in counseling and no meds. I have discussed this with my counselor but her only suggestion is to let it go. I can't seem to stop this.

Also, with the holidays comming up I am already feeling stress and anxiety about life in general.

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 6:11pm

Hi mom_bunnyboo. Im sorry you are having those feelings! they are completely unfair to you. I have a hard time too with some of my past dec... but there is light!

can I ask.. why no meds? are you trying alternative ways to dealing with gad? are you religious?

:) remember EVERYONE is deserving of happiness. Life is full of choices, and we all make some we like and some didnt. but each day is a new day to redeem, to grow, to breath, and to live. sometimes confessing our bad decisions to a safe person, helps release them from the mental hold they have on you. do you have a safe person in your life to tell these to? ( I have an online friend. We share with eachother these types of things.. no judgements.. just an unbiased ear..and friendship)

I hope the happiness begins to grow within you soon! you are worthy of it. if you need an ear, im always here :)

-Ingrid

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 7:38pm

Hi there,


I am sorry to hear that you are feeling that way.


I will share a bit.. my Father died 7yrs ago and we weren't speaking at the time. I have had such a hard time forgiving myself and for MANY years I couldn't.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 8:54pm

I am sorry to hear about your distress. What does your therapist have to say about these feelings? I hope that you can discuss these things openly & honestly.


Forgiving ourselves is very hard to do. I like to think of my regrets, poor decisions, sins, etc. as a burden, that I don't need. I allow myself a limited time to focus on it, then put it out like trash for the waste management company on Thurs. night. Admittedly, some of those anxieties return & nag @ me. Once again, I give them 20 minutes, tops, then back to the curb.


You are so much more than your illness. You have control over it. GAD is NOT your master. Keep your positive affirmations handy & use them when the negative thinking creeps in. Sending P&PT's your way. Good luck. YOU CAN DO THIS! (((hugs))) jan



 

 


 



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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:01pm

I think everyone else gave the ideas I had.

Sheri Ann