Thinking too much

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Registered: 01-28-2006
Thinking too much
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:13pm

Hi! I want to say that I really like this board and it helps me so much to put things in perspective. I really do appreciate all of the support - knowing other people go through what you do makes me fell less alone, THANK YOU!

Does anyone think too much? I find myself often thinking over - analyzing many situations. for instance when I have a conversation with someone and then later after it is over I find myself going over what I said in my head. I should / should not have said that or this ect.ect.ect. I find it hard to let go. And if someone says something to me I really over think it and take it personally.

Also if someone metions something that is upseting to me (something that makes me feel terrible) I have a hard time not having anxiety about it. For instance, if someone says oh Joe Blow was in the paper and they are in trouble for stealing. I think well that could be me someday and on and on and on. Even though I know that would never happen. It is like I cannot control unrealistic thinking. Any suggestions for that? I feel that i have exagerated feelings.

I have talked to my counselor about this but she said you need to let these thoughts/ feelings go, you they could never happen. Easier said than done.

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 9:47pm
Yes! I know exactly what you are talking about ... I call them the "voices" LOL even though they really aren't ... more like your subconscious .. telling you (me) what I could have, should have, would have said and if I said this, what would have happened, or if I did that, what would someone think, etc etc ... and it keeps me up at night sometimes!! It's crazy, I was once told that everytime the "voices" were there, say "NO" either outloud or in your head, ... actually was told that for negative thinking or something, but it works for the "voices" too , telling them to be quiet ;)

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 12:02am

This is common to folks on our board. I posted the Wednesday Wisdom on

 

 


 



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Registered: 12-25-2004
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 6:57am

I have this problem too, and I have also talked to my therapist about it. She has recommended taking a more light hearted approach to the over analyzing. She suggests that when it starts happening I should say to myself, "Here ago again, doing my thinking thing." Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, although I've only been working on this issue for about a week. When it is working, though, I find that I don't take the thoughts as seriously, which helps me to let go of them faster.

I hope you find a way to deal with them that works for you! ((hugs)) Let us know how you're doing!

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 1:53pm

hi there:)


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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 8:27pm

Yes!

Sheri Ann