feeling lonely and depressed...

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feeling lonely and depressed...
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 3:53pm

i don't know where else to turn...


sunday is the only day dh has off of work, and he's been gone all day and i won't see him until he comes home around 1 in the morning. he's at a football game...and i know its not fair of me to be mad at him, he works so hard and deserves time to "play," but i soooo look foward to sunday's cause i get to spend time with him...


there's very little that i look foward too these days...everyday is the same with me...a whole lot of nothing (i'm on bedrest due to a complicated pregnancy).

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 5:02pm

(((((((((((Heather)))))))))


Your someday WILL come!!!!

Jennifer

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 7:48pm
First of all ,thank you for your reply. It always helps when you know other people going through the same thing.I have an 11 year old girl and a 2 year old son. I know how you feel, except for the bedrest,being pregnant and having young children.They are your life right now so enjoy them.It goes by so fast.You will feel lonely no matter what,because when they are babies,you have no social life.Maybe you could join some kind of mother group.As for the money thing and living with your parents,I have been there too.I was living with mine separated from my husband for 5 years.I was worried what other people thought,but you shouldn't care what other people think,you never know what they are going through.These days people could look like they have so much money,yet be in debt up to their ears.I have also felt that way about my daughter,that she has a mother like me,shy and depressed,when she was 4 I went on paxil,because just taking her to preschool would stress me out,meeting new people,I told the doctor I wanted to go on it for her because she is so outgoing and i am not.It helped a little.The bottom line is you are his mother and he loves you no matter what.I hope you feel better.
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Registered: 05-27-2003
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 8:07pm
i just wanted to say thank you ladies for replying.
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 11:39pm

I totally agree, Jennifer.

Sheri Ann

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 11:40pm

Hi & welcome!

Sheri Ann

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 6:58am

Hi. Thanks for the support that you've given me in the past. I have to tell you that I agree with the other posters. Something like this will pass eventually, and before you know it, you'll be out of the blue and into the clear. Sometimes, it's not easy going through depression and loneliness. I sometimes go through that too where it feels like nothing's right. Then, I realize that I have to find a way to make myself happy, because that's what life is really all about.

When I was living on my own for the first time out of school, I remember calling my friends back home, and all of them were busy with their lives to the point that I couldn't really talk with them. Then eventually, life did get better, and I found more distractions. Hang in there! It'll work out eventually! Promise! <<<>>>

Yaddiya

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 12:47pm

thanks ladies for all the kind and supportive words.

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 1:33pm

Heather,


I am so sorry that you are not feeling so

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 2:56pm

thanks for your reply heather,


yeah, and i coming down on my meds...and i'm super worried about this too:( i'm not trying to get off the meds, just lower the dosage due to the risks of withdrawl to the baby...my p doc said that she'd rather me lower my ssri and up the zyprexa if i need too...and if i keep feeling anxious like this, i will probably up my dosage of the zyprexa...


we'll see....


sigh...

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:10pm
You really need a hug.
Sometimes I am so sad for my ds.
He is sixteen and has this.
I worry about his future.
He always tells me I am there for him and that I do truly understand.
I usually call him from work.
Today he asked me why I wondered if he is okay.
I worry about him but don't want to make him any more anxious than he is and then I worry about that and become anxious myself.
His friends have drifted away because he homeschools, and obviously he is not very social.
He tells me he isn't lonely but sometimes I know he is.
I wish I could reach out and hug you but going through my experiences with my ds I know ppl make him uncomfortable esp strangers.
Someday I hope he won't have to deal with this but honestly I have accepted it isn't just going to go away as much as we both would like it to.
Hope is what gets me through.
My prayer for you is that you find hope and realize you are a wonderful mom.
I believe not all of us are meant to be social butterfies and our experience has taught me to be more non-judgemental and less hard on myself.
Just beginning to realize my darling son may have inherited this from me and my beloved mom. (believe we both have it went un-diagnosed)
I have good days and bad days.
Each day I get up and go to work is a "Victory" for me.
Sometimes I think we might have had something traumatic happen in our lives or there is the gene connection but I look at it like maybe there is a reason.
I have met alot of really great ppl.
Learned alot about myself along the way.
Unconditional love.
My ds is amazing, in spite of his daily struggle.
While others may not understand and be supportive I will and I am.
Someday I hope others will become informed and educated about this.
In the meantime I will advocate for him.
I am all he has got.
And that makes me sad.
But hope springs eternal.
He knows I love him.
Don't push but gently encourage him.
Little victories.
Hugs!
Nightangel

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