Analyze and Worry

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Analyze and Worry
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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 8:32pm
Does anyone make themselves worried / anxious over analyzing everything they say and do. I feel like when I have a conversation with someone after it is over, I go over and over and over it in my mind. I should not have said / I should have said. Maybe I offended them? It goes on and on. I know that I should stop doing this but it is really hard. I have been to several social events with my children this week and I feel like I offend most people or talk too much! I know that I don't, but I feel like I always say the wrong things! I sometimes think that I shouldn't say anything and then I would have nothing to have anxiety about.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 8:54pm

Yes, it is definitely part of anxiety.

Sheri Ann

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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 9:51pm

Join the crowd! I think most of us were born worriers. In fact, I have played & re-played the tape of conversations in my mind so much, both the real & revised versions, that I have thought about becoming a screenwriter. I have become quite good @ it after 53 years;)


It is really hard not to get caught up in worrying what other ppl think. I have had these self esteem issues too. Keeping your list of accomplishments handy & all the things YOU know YOU are good @ serve as a reminder that you are a good & worthwhile person. Good luck! Think positively! (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



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Registered: 09-12-2003
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 10:27pm

I so totally do the same thing! It drives me nuts worrying about it! I hate going to social functions because of it! I'm ok if it is only one person but more than that and I'm a nervous wreck! You are soooooo not alone!

Laura

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Registered: 01-28-2006
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 11:21pm

My counselor and I have been working on self - esteem. It is so hard. It helps that I am not alone in this, I just wish that I could STOP doing this! I do try to say STOP but I cannot help it. Sometimes I discuss it with my DH and he laughs and then we laugh together because it is riduculus!!! The thing is most of the time people do not even remeber what you say to them! Thanks a lot, I feel better!

Missed the chat - but last week I really enjoyed it!

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Registered: 09-23-2006
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 8:58am

I'm new to this board, new to this website really, but I'm so with you at this moment.

My husband is a brilliant elected official. He gives speeches as easily as he breathes. I'm the opposite. Often in social situations I feel anxious, I say one word or one sentence too many, and it haunts me later.

I've decided that now that my kids are back in school, I'm determined to be a less anxious, more fulfilled person. I'm nearly 50 -- I've wasted too much time! I want change NOW.

I've started seeing a counsellor (a kind, grandmotherly type), reading books about meditation, and cutting back on caffeine and alcohol. This is in addition to going to the gym, which I've been doing consistently since last February. I work with a trainer -- I may be sore for a week afterwards, but it's great to have somebody push me to my limits. Achy muscles are my friends because they remind me that it's not to late to evolve, improve.

The biggest positive change I've undergone is that I don't berate myself constantly like before. If I criticized my children the way I used to criticize myself, they'd take my kids away.

It's a slow process, but a good one. :-)

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 10:02am

We are very happy to have you here. Please take advantage of our supportive community by posting any questions or concerns. Many of us are works in progress, learning new ways to cope with anxiety disorders everyday. You can do it, too!


It sounds like you have taken many positive steps in your quest for wellness. That is great! I wish you much success, jannle. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



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Registered: 09-22-2004
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 2:40pm
One of my biggest problems is that my brain doesnt seem to stop and "leave a dead horse lie". I analyze and re-analyze things to death and thats why I think that panic attacks I have can get worse and worse. Once I start thinking of the attack I start analyzing and overanalyzing the attack, why its happening to me, what i'm in for if the attack gets worse, how i think the attack will ruin my life because they will never stop...etc. I'm trying to deal with these issues I can diagnose but am having a hard time fixing. Going back to psychologist starting tomorrow as a result. I need to retrain myself.
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 5:47pm

You are making so many positive changes!

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 09-04-2006
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 6:02pm

I worry the same way you do! As Sheriann says, is it al part of this "whole anxiety bit"!?

I couldn't believe you wrote that--because I feel the exact same way! You have a worrying soulmate!

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 4:09pm
The replaying of conversations in our heads like that is part of OCD. As SheriAnn mentioned, Lexapro can help immensely.

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