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| Mon, 10-09-2006 - 9:40am |
I just started a new job, i'm in a theatre company thats putting on a performance, I am in university and I have a boyfriend. (PLUS! I have just started a new b/c pill so my hormones are all over the place-maybe?)
I'm feeling stressed out, I think, by all these things. I dont feel as close with my boyfriend right now and I hate it beyond all belief.
Let me explain..
I hate feeling distant from my boyfriend, I feel like I can't feel things for him right now because im just so stressed out from everything else. I do love him, but because of this I start wondering "do I really?" (I know I do though, ughhh so confusing)
Theory one: I think I'm just feeling so stressed out by everything and I feel all over the place, and my brain like goes into mild depression from it all. I've been slightly depressed before and have felt like this as well.
Theory two: On my last birth control pill I felt like this at the time of my pms, but now ive switched to an even higher dose pill(which would be the same at the time of my pms just all the time)
I really have no clue what to do. I do have anxiety. I have just started a new pill (tricyclen to cyclen) and i just dont know what to do.
Above all, I love my boyfriend, and I want to close the distance I'm feeling.

I am sorry to hear that you're in such a tough spot. I suppose it's a given that your relationship would improve, if you could feel better about yourself.
Have you been in therapy or considered it? Have you considered a change in your current bcp? Since you had trouble when you changed to another in the past, I hope your dr. was aware of that. We have had others who posted about increased anxiety with bcp changes.
You do sound stressed with school & the new job which must be very pressure packed. Make sure you carve out some *me* time. You need to decompress. When you get some breathing room, perhaps you could discuss your feeling with your bf. I am certain he must notice this distance & would feel a whole lot better if he knew what is causing it. Good luck! Keep in touch. (((hugs))) jan
Thanks for the reply! :)
Do you know of any birthcontrol that is good for anxiety?
I think that all relationships go through times like this.
I have been married 7 years and with mu husband for 8. We have had many of those times where we felt distant.
Just keep communicating. That is key...
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
I don't have an answer for you. I do know that some women seem to be more sensitive to the pills. My mom was never able to take them & now can't take hormone replacements. She is NOT an anxious person, but suffered greatly with anxiety when on hormones.
Here's the link to the Birth Control board. They have alot of bcp info posted. HTH http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhcontracept?ice=ivl,searchmb
Do you think that maybe you are overthinking this?
Sheri Ann
I did tell him how I was feeling last night :) and I feel a whole lot better. Turns out he was feeling the same way. I think we were just both so busy and missed each other a lot. So when we saw each other for a couple hours it didnt feel like enough, and then we would feel like we never saw each other. We are a couple of love birds and we miss each other terribly :)
Thanks guys!
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
Sheri Ann