Anxiety and dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
Anxiety and dating
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 12:14am

Hi all,

I've dealth with generalized anxiety and social phobia since I was in highschool, in addition to bouts of depression which have in some cases lasted for months.

The two have the tendancy to fuel each other, and I do lack friends except for a small few because I have a really difficult time connecting with people.

I posted here a while ago and was really disappointed when I only got one response, but I figured I'd try it again. Essentially I am curious if anyone here with anxiety has had any difficulty when it comes to dating, relationships & such.

I've asked my friends, and not only are they not willing to try to set me up with anyone, but they only like to get together in a small group with the same individuals there every time. It is just really hard to meet any prospective dates, even being at school full time.

I want to know if anyone can relate on any level to these difficulties I'm having. I haven't been on a date in years and it's getting depressing at this point, and also it's feeling pretty hopeless.

Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this, and take care.

"Hate is easy. Love takes courage."

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:02am

For me, I was very popular in school, friends came easy - but we drifted apart once we graduated.

Sheri Ann

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:54am

In the last couple of months, I have read articles on how hard it is to meet & make friends nowadays. I will continue to look for those articles & provide a link if I can. For now, here's a couple I came up with. HTH Good luck! (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:25pm
Thanks, but don't give up.
I was a Volunteer cook with the Salvation Army.
It was one of the best things I have ever done in my life.
I did it for three months without pay and what I got out of it is priceless.
Made many friends, learned to have confidence in myself.
Actually I applied for a paid job but did not get it but got another one through connections I made.
Networking.
It was a great place they helped me out being a single mom money was tight because I was in between jobs and had just finished school. (I went to college as an adult student)
If I needed anything in the way of food, etc. they were awesome to me.
There are free dating sites.
I am not sure how comfortable you are but the Library is a great place to meet ppl.
Mine has all kinds of activities that are available and no charge.
Hoping you find someone.
It will happen when you least expect it!



Edited 10/18/2006 2:29 pm ET by nightangel67
Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:28pm
Cool!
Thanks Jan!
Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:35pm
It is great to have on-line friends.
My son has many and so do I.
I keep in contact with my favourite sister that way.
(she's my ONLY sister)
Standing joke between us. lol :)
Anyways it helps to make you feel connected to the world and the distance in miles doesn't matter when you are close together connected by your heart.
I love iv because we are all connected.
It is an amazing place.
Nightangel

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