i have no great advice, but wanted to say that guilt really is a useless emotion...we already have enought anxiety/stress w/o adding to it beating ourselves up for stuff.
You have posted this many times & I cannot imagine being focused on the guilt for so long. It must be torture. Although message boards have their place, they are no substitution for *real life* help. IMHO, that is what you need now. Please get yourself some help. Believe me that talking to a counselor & telling exactly what has happened will NOT get you into trouble. Counselors are trained for these situations & they have heard plenty. You will NOT shock them. I think that getting these issues off your chest will bring such a relief.
I am keeping you in my T&P's. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan
Try Googling "Overcoming Guilt". There are lots of books on the topic that I'm sure you could get from your library or on Ebay really cheap. I turn to books often (yes, I'm a self-help junkie!). Sometimes they offer insight you wouldn't naturally think of on your own.
Sometimes it just helps accepting yourself. Actually accepting that you feel guilty about your guilt. Since I have done this it has helped me immensely. Right now I am going through the "waiting game", because I had a biopsy last week. Tomorrow I go have my stitches removed. I won't know for about a month, maybe less three weeks what the results are. Trying to be positive. For the first time though in a long time I am putting me first. Decided while I awknowledge the guilt it is out of my control, I need to focus on ME. Quite hard to do but everything will fall into place. I have faith that I am strong enough to handle whatever curves life throws me but I do allow myself to experience all the EMOTIONS I am feeling right now. Just take each day one at a time. Baby steps seem much more easier. Small goals over big ones. Giving yourself some slack. I have been staying inside most of the week-end, because I had the biopsy on my face. Last week at work it was really hard to deal with ppl. Normally I am a pretty easy-going person. After having to deal with so many ppl asking or commenting on my appearance (my face), I decided to be somewhat blunt and upfront about it. And I felt better. lol lmao Feeling guilty is I think something some of us just have had to deal with. Learning to unlearn it takes time. It does get easier. I definitely am learning. To New Beginnings.
I am sorry to hear this, Lori. You always talk about your ds & little about you. I am hoping for the best possible outcome on this biopsy. Keeping you in my T&P's. (((hugs))) jan
hi there,
i have no great advice, but wanted to say that guilt really is a useless emotion...we already have enought anxiety/stress w/o adding to it beating ourselves up for stuff.
You have posted this many times & I cannot imagine being focused on the guilt for so long. It must be torture. Although message boards have their place, they are no substitution for *real life* help. IMHO, that is what you need now. Please get yourself some help. Believe me that talking to a counselor & telling exactly what has happened will NOT get you into trouble. Counselors are trained for these situations & they have heard plenty. You will NOT shock them. I think that getting these issues off your chest will bring such a relief.
I am keeping you in my T&P's. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan
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Edited 10/16/2006 11:24 pm ET by mom_bunnyboo
http://www.coping.org/growth/guilt.htm
Actually accepting that you feel guilty about your guilt.
Since I have done this it has helped me immensely.
Right now I am going through the "waiting game", because I had a biopsy last week.
Tomorrow I go have my stitches removed.
I won't know for about a month, maybe less three weeks what the results are.
Trying to be positive.
For the first time though in a long time I am putting me first.
Decided while I awknowledge the guilt it is out of my control,
I need to focus on ME.
Quite hard to do but everything will fall into place.
I have faith that I am strong enough to handle whatever curves life throws me but I do allow myself to experience all the EMOTIONS I am feeling right now.
Just take each day one at a time.
Baby steps seem much more easier.
Small goals over big ones.
Giving yourself some slack.
I have been staying inside most of the week-end, because I had the biopsy on my face.
Last week at work it was really hard to deal with ppl.
Normally I am a pretty easy-going person.
After having to deal with so many ppl asking or commenting on my appearance (my face), I decided to be somewhat blunt and upfront about it.
And I felt better. lol lmao
Feeling guilty is I think something some of us just have had to deal with.
Learning to unlearn it takes time.
It does get easier.
I definitely am learning.
To New Beginnings.