Husband wants me to go to NYC-Scared!

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Registered: 07-16-2006
Husband wants me to go to NYC-Scared!
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:13pm
I hav lots of anxiety and can't handle a lot right now. It is a day to day thing and not really having panic attacks but it has affected me alot. Anyways, my husband wants me and our two girls (7 & 4) to go to NYC for THanksgiving WITH his mom, dad, 3 brothers, sister in law and my two nieces (1 &4). This sounds so stressful to me. I really do not want to go to NYC during the holidays- I fear the airport, planes, flying, crowds and terrorist attacks. I am worried about buying winter clothes and coats for the family and packing and the money involved. I especially do not want to go with all of these people. He is VERY close to his family and why can't we go on a trip by ourselves? I am also currently weaning off of Effexor and having bad withdrawls and feel awful and dizzy and overwhelmed! He told me he will go without me and take our daughters if I can't go. THis sounds mean to me. He knows how rough of a time I am having and he gives me these two choiced-go or we'll go without you. He thinks I can just snap out of this anxiety and toughen up or something. I think it is unfaie and he should have said don't worry we'' just relax at home this year. I have never been to NYC and want to go someday, but when I do I want to go with my husband and kids only and be able to do things that I wasn to do. I really am not interested in seeing a parade in a large crowd (scares me) and having to do everything with his family. Should I just let it go and not worry and pop lots of xanax and go or do I just stay home and relax and let him go and then have his family all judge me as the bad mom (they do not understand or want to) and I will feel so bad for not being their with my kids but at the same time I would rather be home with peace and quiet????

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 9:23pm

It is certainly understandable, your not wanting to go.

Sheri Ann

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