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serious question about therapy
| Thu, 10-26-2006 - 12:29pm |
Has your therapist ever asked or suggested you take a break from therapy because for whatever reason the therapy is not working?


Yes. Today, in fact. The topic of "I can't help you if you won't help yourself, so perhaps you need a break from therapy" has been brought up at least twice now. I said I didn't want her to kick me out, and she said she wasn't kicking me out but that it might be in my best interest for me to quit therapy for awhile until I'm willing to make some changes in my life. I think she doesn't know what to do with me. And I'm stubborn. I know that. It's hard for me to accept change. But I think I'll only feel worse if I don't have an outlet and someone to keep pointing me in the right direction.
The upshot is that I have not been asked to leave at this point, but the notion is still on the table. Is there something wrong with me? With her? She wonders if someone else might suit me better (her words). I don't know. I feel very rattled about this.
hi laura,
i am a therapist (when working anyways:), and i think this is VERY VERY unprofessional of her!
I'm not sure if this is *right* or not. It would seem better since you depend so much on your visits to keep you on track, that she allow you to find someone else. What would you do on a break? How would you cope? I guess I would be asking myself lots of questions about what I feel I need @ this point. Have *you* told her exactly how you feel, Laura?
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Laura don't feel alone thinking maybe your T doesn't know what to do with you. I know for a fact mine doesn't know what to think or do about me. Though she's never suggested I stop seeing her she's always wanting to know if I'm ready to go back to the hospital. I did get better therapy there and at least the T had a better idea what my problems were though I didn't get to see him enough to get anything really settled. My T's way of dealing with me is to only see me once every 2 months. Like that's really helping. I can honestly say I get better Therapy here on this board then I do with my T.
Keitha
Sheri Ann
Sheri Ann
Hi Laura,
I have never heard of a T suggesting to take a break from therapy. I am counselor and would never suggest such a thing. My suggestion to people like in my family or friends that I know is going to counseling (and might not be to sure about it) is to find a T that is right for them. Give them a fair chance and even talk about your concerns about not making progress. I agree with the others find a new T. THe idea about making goals and setting a time to acheive them is a good idea too.
You say you are stuborn. I am too. Check out the book Changing for Good (I think that is what its called). It talks about stages of change. I hope everything works out.
Jessica
It reminds me of my pdoc, he told me that my not getting better makes HIM look bad :(
Sheri Ann