serious question about therapy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
serious question about therapy
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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 12:29pm

Has your therapist ever asked or suggested you take a break from therapy because for whatever reason the therapy is not working?


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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 12:58pm
Seriously, NO! Did your *T* ask you this, Laura? (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 1:31pm

Yes. Today, in fact. The topic of "I can't help you if you won't help yourself, so perhaps you need a break from therapy" has been brought up at least twice now. I said I didn't want her to kick me out, and she said she wasn't kicking me out but that it might be in my best interest for me to quit therapy for awhile until I'm willing to make some changes in my life. I think she doesn't know what to do with me. And I'm stubborn. I know that. It's hard for me to accept change. But I think I'll only feel worse if I don't have an outlet and someone to keep pointing me in the right direction.


The upshot is that I have not been asked to leave at this point, but the notion is still on the table. Is there something wrong with me? With her? She wonders if someone else might suit me better (her words). I don't know. I feel very rattled about this.


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Registered: 05-27-2003
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 1:40pm

hi laura,


i am a therapist (when working anyways:), and i think this is VERY VERY unprofessional of her!

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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 6:02pm

I'm not sure if this is *right* or not. It would seem better since you depend so much on your visits to keep you on track, that she allow you to find someone else. What would you do on a break? How would you cope? I guess I would be asking myself lots of questions about what I feel I need @ this point. Have *you* told her exactly how you feel, Laura?


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Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 7:06pm

Laura don't feel alone thinking maybe your T doesn't know what to do with you. I know for a fact mine doesn't know what to think or do about me. Though she's never suggested I stop seeing her she's always wanting to know if I'm ready to go back to the hospital. I did get better therapy there and at least the T had a better idea what my problems were though I didn't get to see him enough to get anything really settled. My T's way of dealing with me is to only see me once every 2 months. Like that's really helping. I can honestly say I get better Therapy here on this board then I do with my T.

Keitha

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 10:37pm
IF my therapist said this, hinted at it, etc..I'd change therapists.

Sheri Ann

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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 10:48pm
Wow Jan, I never heard of this!
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Sheri Ann

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 12:06am

Hi Laura,

I have never heard of a T suggesting to take a break from therapy. I am counselor and would never suggest such a thing. My suggestion to people like in my family or friends that I know is going to counseling (and might not be to sure about it) is to find a T that is right for them. Give them a fair chance and even talk about your concerns about not making progress. I agree with the others find a new T. THe idea about making goals and setting a time to acheive them is a good idea too.

You say you are stuborn. I am too. Check out the book Changing for Good (I think that is what its called). It talks about stages of change. I hope everything works out.

Jessica

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 4:30pm
Wow it almost sounds like your therapist could use a little "therapy" :) but seriously maybe SHE is frustrated because she isn't seeing the kind of results that she thought she was going to get from you in a certain amount of time, and why is she trying to get you to change??? Change what you're thinking?? Your lifestyle?? What she wants you to be or do?? I don't know but this sounds very strange I think I would be shoppin for a new "T" ASAP!!! Therapist's are human too so maybe this one has her own issues!!! Good luck!!!
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:19pm

It reminds me of my pdoc, he told me that my not getting better makes HIM look bad :(

Sheri Ann